1) DON’T LET YOUR SPOUSE MAKE YOU FEEL WORTHLESS
Even if your spouse insults you, belittles you or rejects you; don’t allow him/her to make you feel like a failure, hopeless or suicidal
2) DON’T LET YOUR SPOUSE KEEP YOU FROM GROWING AS AN INDIVIDUAL
Being married doesn’t mean you stop growing professionally, mentally and in education. Travel, network, go to school, study as you remain faithful and love your spouse. Your personal growth is your responsibility
3) DON’T LET YOUR SPOUSE KEEP YOU FROM RESPECTING YOUR PARENTS AND THEIR PARENTS
If your spouse doesn’t know honour, don’t join in. You be one who shows respect to the ones who raised you and your spouse
4) DON’T LET YOUR SPOUSE KEEP YOU FROM LOVING YOUR CHILDREN
Even if you and your spouse are not in good terms, let that not affect the kind of parent you are. Your children are innocent, love them come what may
5) DON’T LET YOUR SPOUSE RUIN THE BOND YOU HAVE WITH TRUE FRIENDS
If you know for sure you have good quality friends who respect your family and mean well, keep those friendships as your spouse remains a priority. Being married doesn’t mean you isolate yourself and have no friends. If your spouse is anti-social don’t become one too
6) DON’T LET YOUR SPOUSE RUIN YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD
Never allow your spouse to make you less devoted and committed to the God who created you. Don’t turn your spouse into an idol
7) DON’T LET YOUR SPOUSE KEEP YOU FROM TAKING CARE OF YOUR BODY
If your spouse will eat unhealthy, does nothing to take care of self, engages in destructive habits despite your numerous advice; don’t do the same. Physical health is all up to you
8) DON’T LET YOUR SPOUSE KEEP YOU IN THE PAST
If you did wrong in the past, you owned up, apologized and changed; but your spouse still keeps judging you based on the past, don’t dwell there. Remain honouring your spouse and treating your spouse as you focus on the future
9) DON’T LET YOUR SPOUSE KEEP YOU FROM PEACE
If your spouse is not a lover of peace and he/she keeps quarreling, provoking fights, instigating drama; don’t fall for the bait. Don’t engage in constant battles, choose peace instead. Speak to your spouse with love, politely disengage from attacks, enjoy your life, enjoy peace
10) DON’T LET YOUR SPOUSE KEEP YOU FROM FULFILLING PURPOSE
If your spouse doesn’t believe in your dreams and the legacy you are trying to build despite you trying your best to involve him/her; it hurts but it’s OK. Keep on at it. You are the one who will give an account as to why you fulfilled or did not fulfil purpose
11) DON’T LET YOUR SPOUSE KEEP YOU FROM LOVING YOURSELF
As you love your spouse, don’t forget to love you. Remember to have a relationship with yourself, to have your “me” time, to pat yourself on the back, to celebrate what makes you you
12) DON’T LET YOUR SPOUSE KEEP YOU FROM BEING THERE FOR HIM/HER
Sometimes your spouse will push you away and put up walls. Your spouse might feel you being there for him/her will make them a burden. Love your spouse with a stubborn love, love your spouse even when they don’t know or want to admit he/she needs you
