It is true that the person you’ll end up with in marriage will have some imperfections. Believe me, there will always be something you’d have to overlook and learn to cope with no matter how much you love each other. That’s because we’re human. However, there are some imperfections that may end in premium tears.
It’s fine that your partner is still struggling in an area but please ask yourself “Can I cope with this part of him/her if they do not change in 20, 30, 40 years?” You need to count the cost of your decision first before making it. Do not expect your partner to change in marriage. They may and they may not.
So, if the person you’re dating/courting now doesn’t value and respect you, if they cheat on you, if they’re spiritually lazy, if they don’t trust you, if they abuse you, if they don’t like your family, if they’re only managing you, if they don’t appreciate your presence in their life, if they’re not ambitious etc, marriage may not change that part of them.
Whatever imperfections you have decided to cope with in that guy/lady, be sure it won’t lead you into regrets tomorrow. You need a prayer partner in marriage not a prayer project. It’s emotionally draining being married yet wishing your husband/wife was someone else. Whatever your marriage will look like, the signs are already there from the genesis.
Getting married is easy, staying married is the hardest part. Have an hour discussion with some of your friends who have been married for some time, you will understand what I’m saying here. So, while you’re busy looking for physical attraction, chemistry and biology, please also watch out for someone who won’t make your life miserable in the years to come.
This is one decision you can’t change once you sign the dotted lines – the decision of who you chose to marry. You’d have to live with either the blessings or the consequences. Count the cost of your decision and how it will impact your life in the next 30 to 40 years before you make it. Most importantly, never leave God out of the equation.