Question1: IS GOD MY FIRST PRIORITY?
When we begin pouring time and effort into a relationship, we face a pull to put the relationship on a higher priority level than our relationship with God. When God is knocked off the number one spot, it always invites confusion. 1Corinthians 14:33 says, For God is not the author of confusion but of peace, as in all the churches of the saints. If there is confusion in your relationship, chances are you and/or the other person are not making God the top priority.
Question 2: DOES THIS RELATIONSHIP HAVE A PURPOSE?
Proverbs 29:18 states, Where there is no vision, the people perish. Think of vision as purpose or direction, and ask yourself, What is the purpose of the relationship? In a friendship, the purpose is to support one another. If you are just aimlessly friends with no real purpose, then the relationship can leave you confused and often times hurt in the end. It is much the same with romantic relationships. Essentially, the purpose of dating is seeing if you would ever be compatible with marriage. If you are just aimlessly dating, hoping it might turn into something, you will be perpetually confused and likely end up hurt. Ask yourself, What is the purpose of the relationship thats causing confusion? Is there one?
Question 3: ARE YOU BOTH BEING 100% HONEST?
Dishonesty always invites confusion into a relationship. The same thing can happen in friendship. Maybe you have realized that you dont want to hang out as much or that the other person is having a negative influence on you. Regardless of the case, honesty is the best policy to avoid confusion. I know this is easier said than done because emotions are involved and you do not want to hurt another persons feelings. However, if you want to avoid chaos in a relationship, telling the truth and being up-front with the other person is imperative.