As a lady, when many men begin to seek for your hand in marriage and coming to your father’s house to look for flowers to pluck that they didn’t plant, you should know that you are in your prime.
When you are in your prime, you’re more beautiful, you will experience influx of men seeking to have you, you’re body is more developed, attractive and enticing and you look more matured etc. Just like the Bible said that all things are beautiful in its time(Eccl.3:11).
Therefore, it’s important you maximize this season of your life because it doesn’t last forever. Once you pass your prime, men coming for your hand in marriage will reduce in number. They won’t come as they used to hence the need to make good use of your prime.
So, what do you do when you have many men coming for you almost at the same time?
- Don’t Commit Anyone Of Them
Don’t tell Mr A that you will marry him and tell Mr B that you will marry him also, the same thing with Mr C. Don’t do that. Tell them you will get back to them. Take your time and make the best choice.
Accepting marriage proposals from different men is setting up yourself for disaster. Don’t do that. If you’re not sure of anyone, tell them you’ll get back to them.
- Get To Know Them
These people that are coming for your hand in marriage, who are they? What do they stand for? What are their values, interests, beliefs, vision and ambition in life? What do they do for a living? Are they children of God? Which of them do you really love and which of them really loves you too? Get to know them individually.
That’s why dating is there. It helps you to know the sustainability of a potential life partner. Dating isn’t for eating fried rice and chicken, licking ice cream, visiting the beach and the cinema etc., but a time to get to know someone. Until you have accepted a man’s proposal, you’re free to go out with anyone you dim fit.
- Don’t Be Moved By Sight
We all like better things, no doubt. We all want a comfortable life including this man writing this. Nobody comes to the world to suffer but you know that not all that glitters are gold and money isn’t everything.
Don’t let the car keys they’re dangling in your front to deceive you. He’s rich, handsome, connected, tall, thick etc., shouldn’t deceive you. Go for good qualities first. Check out the stuff they’re made of. That car key maybe not be their own.
- Don’t Accept Gifts.
The Bible said that the gift of a man makes a way for him, so men know how to use gifts to have their way with women. Also gifts have a way of blindfolding one from making a sound decision.
Don’t allow the shoes, handbags, clothes, fried rice and chicken, vacations, movie tickets etc., to becloud your season of reasoning. Even if you want to collect gifts, make it clear to the person that the gifts won’t influence your decision.
- Pray About It
The Bible says, ask and you shall be given, seek and you shall find, knock and the door shall be opened to you. Also, the Bible says that you shouldn’t lean on your own understanding but in all your ways, acknowledge God and He will direct your steps(Matt 7:7; Prov 3:5).
The secret things belongs to God and those things that are revealed belongs to His children. So, go to God in prayers and present the men coming for your hand in marriage and ask Him which one among them is best for you. If you’re God’s child, He’ll direct you.(Deut 29:29)
After your prayers, go ahead and accept whoever you’re led to. Don’t ever make the choice of a life partner without involving God.
Conclusively, take your time and make the right decision. No competition in marriage. No award for who first marry. No award for best wedding. No award for the internet breaking marriage. No award for having 200 bridesmaids that you don’t even know. Take your time.