Sincerity isn’t as common as you’d like to imagine these days.
With so much of our interactions nowadays occurring over the internet and through online profiles, it almost comes naturally to people now to pretend to be something other than what they truly are.
This is why it can be so surprising when you meet a truly sincere and authentic individual.
Here are 12 characteristics of a truly sincere person, and what you can expect from this kind of person:
- They’re Not Afraid To Look Weak
Sincerity means being yourself and caring about yourself, not what other people think of you.
And most people are afraid of looking weak and vulnerable in front of others, to the point that they’ll do their best to hide their true feelings, even when it doesn’t help them.
A sincere person doesn’t care about looking weak.
They have strong self-esteem and confidence and don’t need validation from those around them, because they get enough of it from themselves.
- They Give Compliments Without a Second Thought
They don’t “count” the compliments they hand out.
They’re not afraid of what other people might think, or the egos of those around you.
They praise and admire whenever it feels right and when people deserve it. There’s nothing else to it.
As a sincere person, they keep things simple — compliments are given when deserved, and not held back for silly, superficial reasons.
They understand the importance of spreading love and letting other people feel joy and pride, and they want to be a part of that when they can.
- They Care More About Their Values Than The World Around Them
Our surroundings can be a huge driving force in determining the things we say, do, and believe.
We are often pressured by society, our social networks, our family, to do things that we wouldn’t normally do.
But a sincere person doesn’t let those outside influences affect them.
They are driven by their inner values and thoughts more than anything else.
They don’t blindly adopt the short-term trends that drive so many people this way and that.
They live by the beat of their own drum.
- They Love Deep, Meaningful Conversations
So much nonsense gets traded around in meaningless conversations constantly throughout the day, things we won’t care about or even remember in a week.
And so many people get by fine having these shallow and pointless talks because that’s enough to satisfy their needs for communication.
But a sincere person needs something deeper, something they can actually connect with.
They love finding people they can share deep, meaningful, and interesting conversations with.
This is why being friends with a sincere person can be so rewarding — you know they’ll always have something new and interesting to share.
- They Share Their Thoughts and Opinions Without Outside Influence
When was the last time you said something without first worrying about whether it would rub someone the wrong way?
It might have been a long time ago, especially with the way people can so easily get canceled on social media these days.
You might very well filter your own thoughts on a regular basis, simply because you’d rather say the safe thing than the true thing.
But an authentic, sincere individual doesn’t worry about what’s safe and what isn’t. All they care about is what they feel in their heart.
This means they might not always be the most likable people, because they can say and do things that rub some people the wrong way.
But they’re true to themselves, flexible with their opinions, but still loyal to their own values.
- They Treat Everyone With the Same Level of Respect
Whether it’s a janitor or a CEO, a sincere person will see every person as what they are — another human on planet earth, deserving of their basic respect and kindness.
Other people might only use respect as leverage to get what they want from people above them on social or career ladders.
But genuine, sincere people understand that respect and kindness is something everyone deserves.
It’s not something to be used as a currency in a game of social poker.
It’s something you give out whenever you can because you aren’t going to run out of it any time soon.
- They Don’t Blow Things Out of Proportion
Sincere people only think about what’s actually going on.
They don’t live in the dramatics that so many other people trap themselves in, the chaos that makes up the daily life of some of their peers.
This is why when you meet a truly sincere and authentic individual, you will notice that they always seem so calm and stable with their lives.
They know what they want and they know what they have to do to get it.
The last thing they have time for? Drama. Blowing things out of proportion. Making big deals out of tiny, tiny issues.
They don’t let their ego get in the way of discussions, and rarely ever have misunderstandings.
- They Give Without Expectations
Sincere people stay true to the meaning of charity.
They do things because they want to, not because they get to reap some feel-good brain chemicals from it.
Genuine people do things without being told because they want to stay true to their values.
They show compassion and kindness even when no one’s looking or when no one else wants to show up.
They act independently of what people might feel or think; they give without expectations, freely, and compassionately.
- They Are Patient and Can Deal With Silence
In an overstimulated world, it’s becoming more and more difficult to find people who can comfortably sit in silence.
Where most people want to distract themselves and welcome the endless stream of stimulation, sincere people don’t really have a problem sitting with quieter moments in life.
Ultimately, sincere people have patience, and that bleeds into everything else in their lives.
Whether it’s waiting for lines, dealing with conflict, or working with others, they stay resilient through tough situations by being patient.
- They Always Seek Out Knowledge
Genuine people look for genuine growth in themselves.
They’re always looking to push forward and learn, and they don’t need an audience to do so.
Sincere people never think they’re too good for the world – one of the primary reasons why they seek out knowledge is because they don’t run with their egos and think they’ve got everything figured out.
When you sincerely want to grow as a person, you constantly look for opportunities to do so.
- They Laugh When They Feel It
Nowadays there’s so much pressure to be someone you’re actually not. Genuine people don’t really care about putting up a face – not even a happy one.
They don’t feel like they need to be someone else and enact people-pleasing behavior to belong to a crowd.
In fact, they don’t really care about belonging to a crowd. Sure, they want to make people feel at ease but not at their own expense.
They won’t make fun of people just to earn other people’s favor, they won’t participate in activities just to “fit in”.
They’ll laugh at jokes they think are funny because they are proud of who they are in their skin to assert their own individuality.
- They Hold Themselves Accountable
Sincere people are easy to trust because they hold themselves accountable for their actions.
It doesn’t mean that they’re perfect and incapable of hurting others; they’re very much human like us.
But what separates sincere people from others is their integrity.
They hold themselves to a high enough standard that they take responsibility for the consequences of their actions.
They don’t try to manipulate people or evade consequences – they face them headstrong and use these as opportunities to grow and become better people.
Sincerity Made Simple
Oftentimes we feel sincerity is this giant mountain that can only be conquered by a brave few people.
But sincerity doesn’t have to be this demanding, colossal thing.
Just because it’s rare doesn’t mean you have to be a “special” kind of person to be sincere.
If you’re looking to add value to your life and grow into a genuine person, start with a few of the points above.
At the end of the day, sincerity is about being honest with your shortcomings, facing them head-on, and being true to what you need to do to become a better person.
Written by Lachlan Brown