As a lady,
have you ever just sat down one day and taken a honest analysis of all the past relationships you have been in and suddenly come to the realization that you have been serially dating wrong guys, play boys, abusive ones, immature ones, etc
either it is them always being attracted to you, or you always being attracted to them.
Or you haven’t really been dating them bad guys, but they always seem to be coming around you, and the good guys you would like to attract aren’t coming.
Here’s some reasons Why…
1) YOU HAVE NO BOUNDARIES/STANDARDS
Boundaries are important, they define who you are, what you will accept or not accept, they also serve as a protection..
Not having any boundaries, makes you a target for people who are seeking for easy prey, because they know ladies with boundaries will be mission impossible for them…
Having no boundaries means you are too easy, ANY thing or ANY man goes, as far as its man, character or no character, mature or not,
you meet a guy today and tomorrow you are dating him,
next tomorrow you are sleeping over at his place,
Good Guys have boundaries and will only seek out Ladies with boundaries too, bad guys can smell a lady without boundaries or expectations from them to live up to like sharks can smell blood, have no boundaries and the vultures will come.
2) YOU DON’T KNOW WHAT IT IS EXACTLY YOU WANT OR NEED.
When you don’t even know the kind of Man you want in your life, even when the right guy is standing right in front of you, you can’t tell, and you will end up dating any Man,
Dating without a purpose or direction, dating when you are yet to find yourself, your values, will make you liable to making this mistake over and over again. Without clarity as to what you want, the kind of husband you want, chances are high of you searching the wrong places and accepting the wrong guys you should turn down.
3) YOU DATE FOR THE WRONG REASONS.
Wrong reasons like Money, he’s cute, I don’t want to be alone or single (seriously?), he’s every other girls dream (what of your own dream), or you are so desperate to be in a relationship, any relationship, just as long as you are not single, you will settle.
When you date a guy for reasons like his physical qualities without balancing it by paying consideration to other things like character, you are more likely to make a wrong choice..
4) YOU KEEP TAKING HIM BACK OR GOING BACK TO HIM.
For funny reasons many ladies fall into this trap of a vicious abusive relationship circle
Out today, Back tomorrow
Either because they miss the good times they have forgetting the BAD TIMES, and the reasons they left in the first place.
So he cheats on you today, or he beats you up during an argument, and you break up with him, he comes back to beg you, crying and promising to change, and you suddenly start to feel sympathetic, you take him back or you go back to him..
Two months time, and he repeats it again, you break up, he comes begging and the circle continues.
5) YOU HAVEN’T DEALT WITH YOUR BAGGAGE .
We all have baggage, our baggage determine the quality of people we can attract or repel.
Baggage like character defects, past experiences, attitudinal issues, wrong dressing choices act as signals,
Take dressing for instance, it’s not matter of spiritual husband or deliverance problem, there’s a way you’ll dress men who are looking for fun only will be the ones coming (much to your chagrin),
and there’s a way you dress, men who are looking for commitment can pick you out too.
6) YOU ARE AFRAID OF COMMITMENT.
When you are afraid of Commitment as a lady, you will invariably be pulled towards or pull towards you Men that aren’t seeking commitment as well.
7) YOU THINK YOU DO NOT DESERVE BETTER
We ACCEPT the TREATMENT we EXPECT
We Expect the treatment we think we DESERVE
Either for self esteem issues, or Misinformation, when we think we do not really deserve better, we accept and settle repeatedly, not seeking a break from the dating bad guy circle..
Personal if I were a lady there are things I can take from a Man,
✔️ Hitting Me.
There’s nothing normal about it. NOTHING
✔️ Cheating on me.
I will never be a main chic talk less of side chic,
I’m either THE CHIC or I’m not..
Even now as a Man,
If any lady ever has a reason to CHOSE between me and another guy, she can forget about Me.
I will never accept to be an option.
How can I be in your life and you had mind to be seeing another person,
I won’t even ask you to chose. Chose wetin, is Relationship oh, not Objective Exam..
✔️ Disrespecting Me
Talking down on me.
Calling me names.
Treating me like, without him I’m useless.
God forbid, my purpose isn’t tied to Marriage.
I will forgive once. Maybe it’s a mistake,
Maybe even twice. Let’s assume it’s a coincidence
But thrice. God forbid.
When we are not married? .