1) HER NATURE: There are different type of ladies out there, chatty ones, quiet ones, extroverts, introverts, Fashionistas, etc. Each unique and beautiful in her own way.
Your Job isn’t to pick any lady you see and then change her into the type of person you like, your job is to pick a lady that is the way you like them to be, or that you can accept her the way she is before now demanding changes.
Relationship is not a Project work.
2) HER PASSION: Another aspect of a lady you shouldn’t temper with in the name of a Relationship is a lady’s Passions, Hobbies.
The things that give her Satisfaction and Fulfillment.
Maybe it’s Art, or Music, or Writing,, you are not to come into her life and shut that aspect of her down. You’ll take away things that give her Joy.
3) HER DRESSING: You knew you don’t like ladies that wear trousers and apply make up, you left all the ladies that don’t wear trousers and went to ask out one who does, after 4 months of dating, you start telling her she should stop wearing trousers and no more make up with plenty other rules. As as what na?
If you really must date her, and you think her dressing needs to change, please take it slow and steady.
Let her change in dressing come from her..
4) HER LOOKS: Sir, don’t force a lady into ulcer because you like them slim, were you blind?
You didn’t see her African Mama hands before you asked her out abi?
You saw her slim, you now came, and you keep shouting on her to eat seven times a day to gain weight, because you like them chubby, continue oh, is like your village people are playing with your settings.
You saw her shape, breasts, stomach, and all, the way it is, you came and you are complaining, that why can’t she be busty like Jane, curvy like Amara, have flat stomach like Ruth, my fren, is like you have small spiritual problem.
Dear Bachelor
Your First Job isn’t to Change Her.
Your First Job is to Love her.
Your love for her will inspire the change where necessary and where possible.
Trying to forcefully change a lady may cause you the relationship completely, or cause problems in it, or push her into losing her self esteem, and getting into depressions
