When somebody dies in abusive marriage, the pain makes us say many erroneous things in a bid to avoid a reoccurrence but God’s standard does not change and working hard to make your marriage work must not be watered down. We must be careful not to create a soft ground where people just walk away from their marriage over things that can be trashed. Separation and divorce must be the last resort after you had exceeded your limit in prayer to God and consultation with wiser and godly people.
No matter how bad your spouse is, you have no moral ground to walk away from your marriage if you haven’t worked on all your bad behaviours. We and our spouses all have bad habits and behaviours but we are not abandoning our union because we are applying the instrument of love to overlook, tolerate and work on many bad things about our spouse. Leaving is not always the first step except when life is at risk.
As a marriage counselor, I have seen so many people proudly walked out of marriage where they were the real problem. I have also seen others leaving for reasons that could be addressed.
Before you leave your marriage, work on your character or else changing a partner with the same behaviour will produce the same result.
Before you leave your marriage, work on your marriage and your partner. Nothing will be good until someone makes it good.
If your life is in danger leave, but if your marriage is bad work on it.
