It is no accident that the most important virtue in a man is also the most demonized in society today.
Today’s men simply don’t know what it means to be a man anymore – because society keeps attempting to redefine masculinity and rewrite its meaning.
We are told men should cry more, show more emotions, be more sensitive, etc, etc. We are even bombarded with numerous messages saying it is for men to wear dresses and be effeminate.
In 2019, the American Psychological Association (APA) declared traditional masculinity as “harmful”. They concluded. masculine traits such as stoicism, competitiveness, aggression, etc, are toxic to women and even men.
Basically, Masculinity was labeled as “toxic” because it doesn’t conform to the liberal woke agenda that permeates the world today.
But have you noticed the one thing society doesn’t tell men, is how to to stand up and be men? Have you noticed it doesn’t tell men to be strong, stoic, enduring, and to persevere in the face of adversity?
Have you noticed that it doesn’t tell men to be the AUTHORITY in their homes, to be the HEAD of their wives, and to LEAD/ MENTOR their families?
So women, when looking for a husband, don’t be enthralled by a man’s sweet tongue and ability to pander to your ego. Don’t be taken in by men who don’t challenge your bad behavior and call it out.
Don’t be impressed by a man’s education, qualifications, job, money, pedigree, carriage, dress sense, eloquence, family connections, etc, etc.
Do not be deceived by fake romantic gestures, material gifts, buying of flowers, dinners, and all that nonsense.
And certainly do not look for a man who will love you for who you are, or accept you the way you are.
The MOST IMPORTANT virtue to look for in a man is Masculinity. Also look for humility, the ability to lead, guide, mentor, embrace challenges, and not shy away from difficult circumstances.
Masculinity is what makes a man love his wife the way God told him to love her. Essentially, masculinity makes a man ready to lay down his life for his bride, and do whatever it takes to provide for his family.
It is also what gives a man courage, and makes him strong for his wife, family, and community, when everyone else around him is found wanting.
Masculinity is not only how a man looks or dresses. It is about how he carries himself and the energy he projects. It is about honesty, principles, and integrity.
So men, don’t let anyone tell you your masculinity is toxic. Don’t listen when they say men should cry more, or be in touch with their feminine side. Also, tell them to shut up when they say it is wrong to tell boys to ‘man up’.
The truth is, when a man sees his masculine traits as a gift from God, and his love for his wife as a command (even when she is deemed unworthy of it ), he would use it to showcase God’s grace, or accept the trials that come from it as an opportunity to demonstrate his trust in God,