Many people pray for a conflict/ disagreement free relationship, that’s cool, but the truth is, Conflict isn’t the problem, HOW conflict is managed is the problem.
Here’s 5 ways conflict actually helps relationships.
1) YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE REALLY DEALING WITH
There are aspects of a person you will never know till they get provoked, even they themselves may not know that aspect of them exists, because they’ve never been provoked before.
There are things you will never know about a person, their dislikes and turn offs if all they keep saying is “It’s okay” ‘there’s no problem” whereas deep down in them, it’s not okay.
Conflicts or a disagreement will expose their true nature, their dislikes, their capacity and how they handle conflict that they have been hiding or been ignorant of.
This will help you to know what to avoid, and what to address in time.
2) YOU RETURN STRONGER
Every disagreement does either of 2 things to a couple, draws them CLOSER or further APART. And ideally, when a conflict is well handled, the couple usually bounce back more in love.
Conflict has a way of making a couple grow fonder of and closer to each other, just like fire only makes gold purer.. Yeah.
So basically, conflict offers you and your partner an opportunity to grow, to make amends and necessary changes so you can grow in love, patience and care. Whether you use that opportunity to your advantage or disadvantage is highly up
to you both.
3) YOU SAY YOUR MIND.
Love has a way of making us want to keep quiet, let it go, ignore, suffer and die in silence, often this isn’t healthy as your
partner may have no inkling that they are hurting you, and may continue to repeat that action.
A conflict is like a push, suddenly you are forced to say all that is on you mind, hopefully you say it with GRACE and LOVE. Your partner then realizes that they’ve been hurting you all along, they can then apologize and make amends, and of course, your relationship is better for it.
4) IT ELIMINATES PRETENCE
A relationship with no conflict or disagreement whatsoever involves at least one pretending partner, or a partner who is
dying in silence. Conflict helps everyone to air their minds and come out clean.
5) IT BUILDS TRUST
After a conflict is adequately resolved, you realize you feel more trusting of your partner because you’ve just had a
disagreement and you survived, you suddenly have an assurance that you both can do this, you can make it together.