Over time, some people are afraid to fall in love, some don’t want to put their heart where it won’t be safe, some because of what they have been through, are too scared to be committed (faithful) in a relationship.
We have seen or probably at one time or the other experienced heart break from somebody that we least expected it from and then most of us, when we hear the word love, we perceive it as “a fallacy or moonshine” (foolish talk) but its paramount to know that Loved is not a fallacy neither is it a moonshine, Love is a True gift of Nature, it’s a gift that comes to you when you least expected it. When love comes into your life, it changes everything, the dull and annoying part of you will not be noticeable by even you, you will live your life without pain.
Love is real, but you need to attract it, what I mean is that, if you are in a relationship with somebody or if you are married to somebody, you could make the person to love you, all you need is to follow these steps listed below.
Step One – Humble Yourself Before Your Man:
(Ephesians. 5 vrs 22) God himself know how important it is for a wife to respect her man (husband) it has a way of putting your word into the man’s heart, don’t think that respecting your man will reduce you never, it will not only project you higher before your man, it will equally show him that you are well cultured. Nobody especially men to be specific, no man want to live with a woman who has no home training ensure to always put your head down for your man so that he can project you higher.
Don’t ever think of robbing shoulder with your husband it will only spoil things and create problems in the home. Respect your husband, his friends and his family members.
Step Two – Be Faithful: – Faithfulness in relationships or marriage is very paramount as a woman. Don’t ever try to play “A smart game” or don’t think that he won’\t find out. Some men are very smart that they understand any move you make but they could just be silent about it.
A man respects his woman the more when he finds out that the woman is very faithful. No man wants a woman who has “hot pants” or who is too cheap for any man. Accord yourself some respects by keeping yourself for only one man (your husband)
Step Three – Be Supportive: (in all Ramification) support your man in any way you can, financially, spiritually, emotionally, socially, economically, physically and otherwise. He needs your support, pray for him always, whenever he is out from home always commit him into the hand of the Lord.
Don’t go with the idea that “this is the responsibility of the man”, do something to help lift the burden, help him to manage his resources, plan with him, don’t extort him, be economical it is your job as a wife to build your man just as the saying goes that behind every successful man, there is a woman, likewise behind every failed man, there is a woman, so choose what you want to make your man, of course you should help him to be successful.
Step Four – Make him Trust you: Trust is one of the virtues that helps build love in relationships, its something that is hard to give you earn it just the way you earn respect. You have to do what will make somebody trust you, and the only way to make him trust you is to be truthful, truthfulness attract trust, so no matter what you have done, always tell the truth and hell will not be let loosed about it. If you are truthful to your man, he will hold you at a very him esteem and ofcourse, he will cherish you even if he doesn’t tell you or show it,, believe you me that he cares.
Step Five – Don’t be too Demanding: This is a problem most women face in their homes today, some of us don’t even bother to know how our men make their money, so long they have it, Oh we will just start demanding as if we helped them to make the money. Don’t misquote me, I am not saying you shouldn’t demand but not all the time, take care of some bills yourself. Infact one of the things that will make your man to adore and cherish you, is when you are financially independent, that is why I encouraged women toget something doing, get a job or something that will help your financial life, so that you could take care of some bills and demand less from your man.
Step Six – Know what to say at the right time: Whenever you want to talk to him, look at his mood, please always choose the right mood to talk to your man, tell him the right thing at the right time, don’t muddle up things for the man. No matter what you want to say, if the man is not in a good mood, please don’t say it so as not to get insultive words or harsh words from him.
Step Seven – Don’t Nag him: Learn to complain less about his attitude, I know that some men attitude could be very irritating even some women as well, but even at that don’t nag, there is a way you could say what you want to say without you nagging about it. Even though you are suspecting him of extra –marital affair, I know that this is what some women can’t stand, but pretend at if you don’t know about his affairs, it is really demanding but pretend, because if you nag about it or make the home hell for him, he could run away from the home and turns to the other woman, see men are polygamous in nature, so don’t make a case over it. Whenever he comes home even when it is very late at night, still welcome him with a smile, please try, give him food to eat, pet him instead of nagging, and if you can do that for two weeks, you will see that he will change. Don’t call him names or insult him whenever there is a quarrel, don’t make the mistake to call him “a failure or useless man”.
Step Eight – Be Appreciative: There are two things that are very important in relationship they are “Thank you and Am sorry” these words are very simple to say but some persons cannot say them.
Always show your appreciation in whatever he gives you no matter how small. Appreciate his look, you could say “Honey you look so good” or “I like your smile this morning” or “Honey you are the best thing that has happen to me”. Learn to always say am sorry when you offend him, its no big deal. Saying am sorry, will not be little you before your man.
Step Nine – Don’t Starve him: It is often said that there are two ways to go into a man’s heart, one through his bed and secondly through his stomach make sure infact avoid joking with these things, don’t starve him, give him whenever he wants it. No matter how busy you could be, always reserve strength to satisfy your man sexually. And give him good food.
