There is a war going on for families and the protection of our children and both the man and the woman are equally at fault and both need to do their job without waiting on the other to do theirs satisfactorily first. The suitable man has a desire for women unsuitable for a long-term relationship. The suitable woman desires men that are not willing or able to be committed but make children with them and want him to commit.
The person supposed to be holding the gap is the priest of the home, the man but he is all too often absent.
The man is stuck in a Juvenile mindset, seeking pleasure and shunning responsibility. Standing in power and courage before the woman that you’ve committed to can inspire almost any woman to be better. You have the power and the responsibility to groom yourself to be a provider and a support for your woman.
You have the ultimate responsibility before God for the behavior inside your home. It is HARD but God will not put anything on you that you can’t bear. You are your woman’s closest connection to Christ, she depends on you. IN a lot of cases, if you don’t do for your family it won’t be done. They may not starve to death but they won’t thrive like they would if you are with them.
Come out of drugs, come out of the fog of continuous sexual pursuit, come out of idleness, come out of adolescence if you’re a man, put down the Xbox, the Playstation, put down the weed, the cocaine, the wig and heels, the pursuit of a new car, rims, jewelry and the woman with the prettiest face or the nicest butt. What THEN will be your conquest!?
Make it be your LEGACY.. What you invest in your family on a daily basis that will outlive you, sayings that you teach your son, lessons that you teach your daughter.. It is NEVER too late.. The child’s mother is probably going to be angry, she will likely distrust you, she may make it hard BUT it is WORTH it to bear it for the sake of your child. She will probably try to anger you and in your anger tell you to never come back.
She may likely heap the shame of all of the moments that you missed and may never forgive you. That’s real.. If you choose to pass on the relationship with your child, BOTH you and your child will suffer. Apologize and let God deal with the anger that you might face from the child’s mom or even the child. WE ALL need you to be that man.
Your daughter might marry my son or your son might marry my daughter. I need your help brother.
The Woman’s job to support her man and be a pillar of character as a Christian in absence of his good example, is lacking. Women are not only failing to support their man butare actively undermining their confidence and discouraging them from assuming their rightful place then using his inaction or the ineptness of other men as an excuse to continue not to support him.
Encouraging their daughters to disrespect and distrust men and not to expect the best from their sons bringing the destruction full circle. A nation of boys raised by their mothers who are wayward. The mancan be blamed for A LOT of things but if he isn’t there then.
