When your husband married you (either through a religious or cultural ceremony) and publicly declared you his best choice, you acquired a new title and status. You became a queen in his realm. It is, therefore, your responsibility to boldly proclaim your majesty in his kingdom.
It is natural for men to pursue self actualisation, success, and full dominion over their immediate environment. Purpose to be his main support column; anchor and stronghold. Massage his ego.
If he’s a politician… be his chief campaigner and cheerleader; if he is in academia or business.. be his chief reader; operations and marketing officer, respectively. When he rises, you rise too and vice-versa.
But remember that as success visits him, he will attract attention from bystanders; naysayers, freeloaders, and idlers who like to ride on other people’s glory. Your wisdom and patience are required when your man begins to climb the ladder of success.
You can’t afford to be distracted by irritatants and irrelevants who seek his attention and favours. Avoid unnecessary drama; petty jealousies and temptation to engage in public spats with other women angling for his attention.
They are not and will never be your equal. If you publicly respond or engage pretenders to your throne, you elevate them to a position they don’t deserve. You are his salt, and you provide stability and consistency, but if you allow yourself to be distracted, his stronghold becomes distabilized, and your reign threatened.
Give your man peace of mind and maximum respect at home. Good men hardly seek comfort elsewhere unless they lack peace and stability at home.
There are enough examples of Queens; Consorts, First Ladies and Wives of Kings; Presidents and Potentates who rejected the temptation to publicly engage their rivals or surrender their Crowns Be shrewd; regal; calm and calculating. Queens don’t denigrate their royalty by taking on non-entities. They ignore them and reign supreme in their space.