Some girls mental reasoning are sometimes very poor. You will hear them saying “I don’t want to marry yet am still young” “I don’t even want to hear anything about marriage now am still enjoying my life”. Girls at the age of 18-24 always attracts serious men who is fully ready to get married but at this age most of our girls never wish to hear anything about marriage… You will hear them saying “who marriage eeep, who care about marriage”.
But this girls will be having serious sex relationship with small boys of their age… I mean serious sex relationship because at this age, they always have high rate of boys, guys and men coming for them but they will prefer to choose those boys rather than the men. Hey are still young to marry but they’re not young to have sex with boys… If you even ask them why are you small girl having sex relationship like this.
You will hear her asking you back “Who is small girl? Do you even know what I know? Are you expecting me not to be having sex at this my age? Do you want to kill me? And besides, what is your own problem with my own life? Abeg, pack well”. At the age of 25-27, parent will start asking them how far? Don’t you have any one yet? Are you not planning to get married? Your mate are getting married?
Or don’t you know how old you are? But mind you, parent only seems outside of their daughter not knowing that inside is finished. With all this questions by her own parent she will now be thinking and asking herself some questions like. “My mates are getting married? Does it means am old enough to marry? Hmmm but how should I go about it those my boyfriends are not a serious type.
They’re not even ready to marry yet. Well, God knows the best I believe in God” My sister, Did you just mention God? Hmm!!! At the age of 27-30. They will now start looking for men to marry not boys to have sex again. They will start looking for serious relationship that will lead to marriage. But the funniest thing is that, at this age of 30 no men will be asking their hand in marriage.
Though they will see men but those men will only want date from them not marriage. Then you will see them forcing their self to marry a man who didn’t like to marry them. No single man at the age of 30-35 will like to marry a lady of 30-35 too instead they will be looking for girls of 20-25 to marry and that is why you will see some men going back to their village to find young girl to marry when they seems that those young girls in the city are not serious about marriage and those that serious too old for them.
At the age of 30-35, if you ask her why are you not marry yet by this your age it getting too late. You will hear her asking you some silly questions like. “Are you God? Or do you want to marry me? Single at 30 or 35 it’s a crime? Did I see who will marry me I didn’t marry him? God knows the best please”. At this age of 30-35 they will start going to Church like never before. They will now be a fake serious type. Her name will now change from Lizy for sure to Sis in Christ.
At this age if you ask her for dating you will hear her saying “My brother, am not like them. Am looking for husband not dating if truly you love me go and see my parent for marriage I can’t do anything without asking for my parent hands. But when she was 18-24 years she was doing everything without her parent hands. But ladies, do you even know that no man want old version again?
Everybody is looking for latest version. You don’t expect a young man of 30yrs to marry you of 30yrs as his house wife. Men that will be interested to marry you will be men of 40 plus and mind you, those men have married with kids except you wanna be second or third wife and I know that naija lady will not want to be second or third wife.
Everything in life has its own season and time. No lady that is looking for husband now that didn’t see who want to marry her when she was 18-24 years but by then, they’re not serious because they’re not looking for husband but they’re looking for sex. Let’s assuming you started having sex at the age of 16-20. Now you’re 30yrs old. My sister can you count how many time you had sex? Well, let’s forget about that because I know you won’t like that part at all.
But let me tell you, everything is not about prayer. God who created you has made a plan for you but when you by yourself changed the plan or miss the road you will now be shouting God where are you. When God is shouting my daughter where are you.. You’re there doing Shakara, enjoying your life and keep taking men for granted.
Why do we have high rate of single mothers and single ladies nowadays? Does it mean no men again? You will see that the old are there not getting married why the young ones are getting married. You as a orderly or senior sister never marry your younger or junior sisters are getting married. You will now be asking God some stupid questions like “God why me? Am mine not your daughter again?
Do you want me to kill myself before you know what to do?”. After asking God those questions you will not go to your parent and be asking them some nonsense questions like “Mum what are you doing with my situation? Don’t you want me to get married? Mum you need to do something ooh because I will commit suicide ooh.”. But why are you telling your mum before you commit the suicide?
When you’re committing sex and rejecting men did you tell your mum then? My sister, there is a time for everything. Don’t let your time pass over you before you will start running after it. They say grab your copy before it too late. Don’t be too selective. Do not follow handsome. Nobody knows tomorrow, poor man today may be rich man tomorrow. I pray that God will by his mercy provide a better man (husband) for you In God’s Name, Amen! – By Danjuma Iliya
