Are you in a relationship or marriage where your partner or spouse’s actions are hurting yet you are afraid to voice out because you want to avoid fighting? You try to appease your partner just to keep peace in the relationship yet you are hurting inside? This write-up is for you.
Human beings are not perfect, human love is not perfect, relationships are not perfect, marriages are not perfect and that is why it does not come easy. It needs work, it needs people who are strong, bold enough to overcome obstacles on their marital journey, to face challenges life throws at them, fight to become one, fight to hold on.
If you are going to pretend all is well because you have heard that marriages or relationships are full of issues so your best approach is to keep quiet, then your marriage won’t last. Hurt will chase you out and not just that, such relationships will also give you an illness. These days people are suffering from high blood pressure, different degrees of mental illness because of an unhealthy relationship or marriage.
He being quick tempered, and having an issue with anger does not mean you should subject yourself to abuse from him because of marriage. He needs to know he is sick and needs to fix himself. Because she grew up in an environment that makes her have no respect for anyone and insult you anyhow does not mean you should live with that because you love her or have kids with her or are married to her. You need a healthy relationship and that requires her getting herself fixed.
You are not obliged to put up with a partner who abuses or maltreats you because they are struggling with their past, pains or trauma. If you need to stay apart for them to realize how much they need you, please do it. Don’t be afraid. Your absence will force them to work on themselves. And when you finally fall back together, you won’t go through any sort of abuse.
Many of the major changes that happens in countries or this world came through a fight. Countries have to fight to gain independence. Communities have to fight to access their social needs. As humans, we fight for a change. We don’t fight because we love fighting.
And when it comes to relationships, there will be times when couples will fight, couples will disagree, couples will argue. They fight because the two individuals in the relationship are not same. The good thing is, because they are in love, they fight issues in love.
We don’t cry for change as some couples do in a marriage or relationship. We don’t worry about change as some people do in a relationship, praying for change is not enough. The best way to achieve is to fight for it. If you want something to change in your relationship, stand for that and fight for that.
If you don’t like the way he or she talks to you, don’t keep quiet, let them know how you feel and how you don’t want to be treated as such. Don’t be afraid it will lead to a fight, the change you need is in the fight, you fight to be heard, you fight to be taken seriously, you fight to be treated right.
Don’t entertain what you don’t want. Don’t accept what you don’t want. Don’t keep mute on what you don’t want. Fighting is not nice, it’s not a beautiful scene but remember you have to fight through some bad times to earn the best times you want in your relationship. If you can fight for the change that you need, you won’t leave your relationship. You will fight to stay.
In conclusion, “A time to [a]tear apart and a time to sew together; A time to keep silent and a time to speak” – Ecclesiastes 3:7 (AMP).
