It’s surprising how some people behave when they fall in love with someone. They seem to lose control over their mind and feelings. They just act on their feelings or what they feel without thinking. The fact that you love him or her doesn’t mean you should lose control over your mind. The fact that you love him or her doesn’t mean you cease to think or reason. Your love for someone shouldn’t make you a fool.
If the relationship is not going the way you want, you have the power to think through and redirect your mind to what you want and where you want to go. You don’t just follow your feelings without thinking. If you love him and he doesn’t love you, don’t just follow your feelings; thinking through will help you understand that you need someone who loves you as much as you love them.
You can only change the direction of your feelings if you learn to master control over your mind. Loving someone should not make you stop thinking about your well-being. Loving someone should not stop you from knowing what is best for you and your future.
If the relationship is not working, it’s not your feelings which will make it work. Once you use your mind, you will know why the relationship is not working. Once you have a change of mind on the relationship, your feelings will change towards the relationship.
Don’t let what you feel for someone control you or dictate to you. Let your mind control you and decide for you. Staying in an unhealthy relationship because of your feelings is complete foolishness, and defending such a relationship because of what you feel for your partner is madness. If you follow your feelings wrongly, you end up hurting yourself badly.
You should understand that, you can develop a strong feeling for someone who can turn out to be the wrong person for you. You have to learn to take control over what you feel for the person else you will try to force the person to return your feelings.
If you can’t master control over your own feelings, what makes you think you can control someone else’s feelings? People who have not mastered control over their feelings are the ones who beg others to return their feelings or force them to be in a relationship with them against their will.
Feelings are byproducts of the mind. You can choose how to feel if you learn to have control over your mind. If he or she is not interested in you, stop thinking about them. If they are not returning your gestures, stop giving. Take control over your feelings.
Once you know he or she is not good for you because you have thought it through, you have the power to control how you feel about them. You have the ability to change the direction of your feelings. Don’t be at the mercy of your feelings. “It smells good” doesn’t mean you should eat it. If it’s poison, the smell won’t save you from dying.
Next time someone asks why you want to be with him or her, the answer should not be about what you feel for them but what you think about them, the relationship and the future. It’s my prayer that the Spirit of the God will bless each and every one reading this with self-control so they can take charge of their feelings and not allow their feelings to destroy them.
In conclusion, “Be careful how you think; your life is shaped by your thoughts” – Proverbs 4:23 (GNT).