One of the difficulties people face when it comes to relationships is to distinguish between who loves them and who does not. Sometimes it is difficult because you love the person, so you think he or she also loves you and sees you the way you see them.
Sometimes, it is difficult because of how much you invested into the relationship, and also because the relationship is meeting some needs. Whatever the difficulties are, one of the easiest ways to find out if the person really loves you is to examine what they see in you.
Do they see dirt or gold in you? Do they see good in you, or it’s only the bad they see in you. Do they appreciate you or always criticize you? Do they motivate you, or they don’t even see any potential in you? Do they find you beautiful or see you as ugly or a bad person? Do they see the positive in you or mostly negative?
Their words, actions, and attitude portray what they choose to see in you. Human beings are not perfect, but people who love you choose to see the good in you, the positives, the gold, the beauty, and they project or magnify them.
Your success, growth, improvement, happiness, achievement, advancement, progress, are the things they channel their energy towards. They understand, love you, and do not require setting a standard for you to achieve before they accept you or change you into who they want before they accept you.
They are also concerned about your weaknesses and want to see you get better or help you in any way they can so you can become a better person. They don’t make you feel you don’t belong or that they are doing you a favour by being in a relationship with you or that you don’t match their standards.
I hope these few examples help you to see the person who loves you or who does not love you. All you need to do is to focus on what they see in you. They have the choice to see the good or the bad and their choice will tell you how much you mean to them and your place in their life.
In conclusion, “You might call many people your “friends,” but it is hard to find someone who can really be trusted” – Proverbs 20:6 (ERV).