Are you in a relationship and do you think you are ready to enter the next stage of commitment?
Please kindly consider these factors before you leap into a full-time commitment.
(1). THE WEDDING COST;
A major factor when considering marriage is cost. It’s no surprise that weddings aren’t cheap; even if you have a simple wedding you still need to pay basic wedding fees. But more often than not weddings incur costs for clothing, food, entertainment, rings, photographers… the list goes on! So it’s important to ensure you are both in the financial position to commit to such a huge outgoing which you may be paying back for years to come. Perhaps at this stage in your relationship, your savings would be better spent on a home or a holiday to solidify your trust and commitment.
(2) YOUR RELIGION;
You need to consider religion if you and your partner are of different religions and planning to get married in a sacred building connected to either of your beliefs. Certain religions require both bride and groom to be a practicing followers to be married. Or if you plan to marry in a Christian or Catholic church then baptism is often required first. Religious weddings are sacred and should be respected and handled sensitively, so consider this element to avoid insult or disappointment.
(3) COMMITMENT AND TRUST;
This works both ways and is something you cannot avoid. You need to ask yourself if you trust your partner 100 per cent and know they will support and care for you throughout your marriage. But you also need to rest assured that you are wholly committed to them too. If there is any doubt in your mind that your partner does not trust you or is not committed to you (or vice versa) then you need to reassess the wedding plans. This builds the foundations of any relationship so they must be squeaky clean before you commit for the long term.
(4) ACCEPTING EACH OTHER;
Loving someone means accepting them for their flaws and adoring them warts and all. Without this, you will always resent them for their annoying traits which could create cracks in your relationships. If you truly love someone you will see past their imperfections (hopefully!) and love them for who they are. Either raise your opinions on their bad timekeeping/inappropriate jokes/laziness or learn to live with them. You must also comprehend that you too will have annoying habits that drive your partner up the wall – underwear hanging on the shower rail, hair slides on every surface, not to mention hormonal ups and downs. You’re not perfect yourself, lady! (But hopefully, he loves you anyway).
(5) FORGIVENESS;
No one is perfect and everybody has regrets. If either you or your partner has done something to hurt the other in the past then you must learn to forgive one another before marriage. If this just isn’t possible then you need to consider what effects this may have down the line. Will you always hold it against one another? Will it be a constant niggle in your marriage? Clean the slate now before you commit.
(6) YOUR MOTIVES;
What are your true motives for wanting to marry your partner? If it’s wealth then you’re barking up the wrong tree. Marriage should be solely based on true love and adoration between two people. Anything else will not a happy marriage make. You also need to ask yourself if you are getting married because you want to or because you feel you should. Feeling pressure to tie the knot can stem from society, families or friends but you need to do what’s right for you and no one else.