No man loves it when a woman nags, no man would commit to a woman who nags. When he started loving her, when he married her, she was not a nag. How did she become so nagging? Below is a common step by step trend that leads a woman from being so warm and loving to a nag.
1) She is beautiful and warm, he falls for her
2) He treats her as special, she falls for him
3) He commits to her. Promises to put her as his priority
4) She gets used to him treating her like a queen
5) He knows she belongs to him and will do anything for him
6) They both get too comfortable with each other. No more apologies when wrong is done
7) He gets too busy for her or starts to admire another woman/women
8) She feels they are drifting apart. She confronts him
9) He belittles her fears. Makes excuses. Telling her to relax, everything is OK between them
10) He drifts even further away without warning her
11) She feels threatened. She feels his effort are no longer towards her
12) He spends less time with her. Their conversations become brief, mere pleasantries, or reminders of a to do list
13) She starts to question how sexy she is, questioning her beauty and power to keep him interested in her
14) He comes back full swing. Allaying her fears. They kiss, romance
15) She is happy, thinking things are like before
16) He drifts even further away. Her woman instincts tell her she is losing him
17) She complains to him. He finds her too demanding
18) She keeps begging him to make time for her, gets angry, calling him names. He thinks she will love him no matter what. He thinks he already knows her, what’s the point of spending more time with her?
19) She takes matters into her hands, plans dates for him, asks that they do counselling, damage control. She acts likes she doesn’t care then shifts to panic mode. He thinks she is being too much
20) He starts to forfeit his responsibilities, avoiding her. If he is a dad, he fails to be there for his child/children. The home is boring and cold
21) He claims she is too desperate and draining and avoids her yet all she is asking for is his attention. He starts spending more time on less important things than with her
22) Her demeanour changes. She is no longer sweet and cuddly but combative and defensive. She feels betrayed and let down
23) She starts being suspicious of him, snooping his phone, following his moves, not believing his words, talking down at him
24) He feels he is being disrespected, being treated like a child, treated like a suspect having to explain everything. He forgets he used to inform her all his movements when they were loving to each other
25) She no longer trusts him with her heart, her words become spiteful. Out of hurt she says things she’ll regret. She attacks him, how little he does, how less of a man he is, how much of a failure he is
26) He attacks back. Insults her, some men get physical
27) She remembers his insults and uses them against him. She cries but he no longer is moved by her tears
28) They are at war with each other. None feels understood, they look for an escape; maybe drown in alcohol, have an affair, become a work-a-holic, pornography addiction or keep busy in church activities
29) They can’t stand each other. No smile, no love
30) They live together though with difficulty, or they break up, or get a divorce
31) Time goes by and they realize how good what they had was. He looks for her wanting to start doing the good things he used to do for her, but is it too late? Is she too hurt and has she messed up things by her nagging ways?
Gentleman, always remember a woman doesn’t start nagging for no reason, something triggers it. When you started to love her, you made he feel special, you did her good; and for as long as she feels she is loved up and is your priority, she will not nag or drain you.
Lady, learn to control your emotions. How you react to challenges in your relationship/marriage determines if you will pull him towards you or push him away. How you react to storms will determine if you and him make through it or things between you two will get complicated. You have the power to attract him and sober him up just like you did the first days; don’t lose your balance
