The person you married as husband or wife has much to do with your destiny and success in life. Not that you cannot choose anyhow but you must be ready to live your life anyhow; life lives anyhow is a life without purpose and destination.
Choosing a marital partner is very easy and at the same time very difficult. Easy when you depend solely on God and allow Him to lead while you follow; when you pray sincerely and receive right counsel; when it is not flesh that is driven you. Easy when you put your priority in order.
It can be difficult when you go about it alone thinking you can do it on your own. Difficult when you choose under pressure;. when you do not allow God to unfold His plan for your life. Difficult when you approach it with deceitful heart.
√ Do not choose without praying through – there is a place of prayer in anything you may want to do in life.
√ Do not choose out of frustration – frustration is what makes you desperate to choose by any means i.e all my age mates have married I am the only one left. Frustration is a stage of confusion. When you are confused, it affects your perception.
√ Do not choose under pressure – when pressure is forcefully applied to a vehicle brake it can cause an accident. If you choose under pressure you may choose wrongly. Do not allow anyone to mount pressure on you to choose when you are not in love with the person. Do not choose under pressure of having sex.
√ Do not choose for financial gain – his/her family is rich, he/she will be able to take care of me. Money does not make happy home. Though there is a place of money, but having money does not necessarily guarantee happy home.
√ Do not choose because of beauty – beauty deceives. A beautiful person today may become ugly tomorrow. Outward beauty is good but it is not as good as inward beauty that has to do with good upbringing, character, godliness etc. Some use beauty enhancer to attract people to themselves. It is only when you married them that you will know that original beauty is not there.
√ Do not choose out of fear – someone prophesied that that is the person for you to marry though you are not convinced, but for the fear of that prophesy you want to go for him or her. That may be risky. Prophesy should not bring fear but peace of mind. If the peace is not there, you must be careful.
√ Do not choose because he/she is long old friend – the person that you know but have parted for more than 5 – 10 years. He/she suddenly appeared and proposed marriage to you or may be you meet on social media, it demands caution on your part especially women. Within the period of parting, you don’t know what has transpired. Proper investigation must be carried out, if such proposed to marry you.
“How not to choose” is not exhausted on this page, there are many other factors to be considered. May God guard you through as a single. Amen.