Let’s begin by defining the word Pretender. It means, “a person who pretends, especially for a dishonest purpose: a person who makes unjustified or false claims, statements, etc., as about personal status, abilities, intentions, or the like”.
There is something worse than desiring to be loved and not being loved, it is being with someone who is simply pretending to be in love with you.
While men do fall for women who don’t love them, we are likely to find more women in this bind because men rarely settle.
Women, on the other hand, make a habit of settling and being blinded to a man that obviously doesn’t care for them.
If you are in a relationship, you should be certain your boyfriend loves you as well.
If you find these signs in him, it is clear he pretends to love you.
1) He wants to keep you/the relationship a secret
I saw something recently on social media where someone said, “you cannot love someone quietly.”
That resonated so much with me because it occurred to me that indeed, love is obvious. It is not vague; not to you and others.
If a man loves you, there is absolutely no way he will want to keep you a secret or be kept a secret.
In fact, he will get offended if your family and friends don’t know about him.
Don’t misunderstand me, some people usually mistake this for being public; some people like being private but there is a difference between keeping the relationship private and keeping it a secret.
Privacy means not talking about it on social media, secret means hiding you from people around him, and it’s a big sign that he pretends to love you.
2) You are not sure of your place in his life
Like I mentioned earlier, love is not vague; not to others, but especially not to you.
If a man loves you, you will just know.
If he is telling you he loves you and you are still unsure of your place in his life, it’s a sign that he is pretending to be in love with you.
You might be insecure; that is always a possibility. But if you are sure it is not insecurity and you are just uncertain where you stand with him, you are likely right.
This message will continue tomorrow. Please, let me know if you are following these teachings and benefiting from them. Your comments always encouraged me to do more. Thanks.