The word submission has been misused and abused in our culture. Most think of “slavery” and a woman becoming a “doormat” when the word is used. Submission is not slavery. Slaves are bound to any desire of their master; a wife is not bound to desires that reach outside of biblical obedience, and therefore she is not a slave to her husband.
A submissive wife is wise, obedient and strong. Submission is not weakness; to submit to your husband gives you power. It brings harmony to the marriage; it also preserves and increases love and respect in the marriage. When there is harmony in the marriage, it brings peace.
To submit means willingly following your husband’s leadership in Christ. For the husband, it means putting aside your interests to care for your wife. Submission is rarely a problem in homes where both partners have a healthy relationship with Christ and where each is concerned for the happiness of the other.
But the wife’s submission to her husband should be as UNTO THE LORD (Ephesians 5:22)! What the Lord will not ask you to submit to, your husband has no right to subject you to!
Submission is not putting the will of the husband before the will of Christ.
Submission does not mean living or acting in fear. Some men have broken their wives head with bottles, beat them silly with belt, raped them, forced them to surrender their money, & even forced their wives to serve their younger ones because their ungodly culture permits it.
Some foolish men even bring their girlfriends home and sleep with them on their matrimonial beds. And the poor wife think she is submitting to her husband & honoring God by keeping quiet in the abusive marriage. A woman is not bound to submit to every unscriptural thing her husband desires.
A man should love his wife and not makes life difficult for her or do anything that is against the scripture. Marriage is not slavery or punishment for women.
What the Lord will not require from you, no man has the right to request from you. Sad to say, many women have submitted to their husbands as UNTO THE DEVIL.
Dear husband, You can’t enjoy God’s favor when you treat your wife as a trash. Make a choice to do your wife good for the rest of your life. Don’t let her regret getting married to you. Consider your wife’s interest always before yours.
Let her happiness be your number one interest. When you love your wife as Christ loves the church, happiness, peace and joy will enter your marriage.