The bible said ‘examine thyself’. Before you make that important relationship commitment, ask yourself, ‘Am I doing this for the right purpose?”.
A question my mentor once asked me years back as I walked into his office and have taken my seat was, ‘do you know what you want out of your life?”. I ran around that question and it dawn on me that I have to define my chase.
Yes, billions of people all over the world don’t know what they want. Most of them are working class people who wake up everyday, go to work and return home, and still feel empty of life.
Same happens in relationships and marriages. People wake up from sleep next to their partner and feel as if they woke up alone. This happens and yet, most of these people have not turned and asked, ‘how did I get here?”.
A man said to me, ‘Sir, the truth is, there is nothing good in this girl. I think I am sexually blinded’. That man was telling his own truth. He has questioned himself and gave himself an honest answer. His emotion gave him a relationship and his reason rose up and placed a judgement on his emotion.
Have you allowed your reason to place a judgment on your emotion?
A man told me how he got changed. He said he was used to visiting brothels and one of the days he was at the door of a brothel, he stopped and asked himself, ‘If I save this money, won’t it serve a better purpose?”.
Question your feelings. What do you want from that relationship. Are you going to find purpose or waste some few months and years in that relationship?
Don’t take it that you are in a relationship because there is someone in your life. A lot of times, what we take for a relationship is just someone making a pass through us.
