Can a blind man lead another man on a journey?
Many usually profess that “love is blind” based on their ignorance or understanding. Meanwhile, this philosophy has ruined many lives and relationships because of an inaccurate understanding of it. If it’s from the standpoint of ignorance, you’d be shocked to find out in marriage that love is never blind.
One thing you should realize is that love mustn’t be blind to those things that would make it fall into the ditch in marriage. Love can be blind to minor or trivial issues, but it should never be blind to weighty matters or red flags.
It is ignorance of the highest order to think love is blind when you’re engaged to an abuser either during courtship or in marriage. It is better to save your life than to keep your reputation inside a toxic or abusive relationship.
In case you don’t know, love isn’t blind at all because God personified as love wasn’t blind to man’s sin and shortcomings. Even though He loved him while he was in sin (imperfect), God didn’t allow him to remain in sin.
Love mustn’t be blind to what would cut your life short untimely.
Love mustn’t be blind to what would tamper with your happiness or peace of mind in a relationship.
Don’t think love is blind for you to endure an abusive partner.
It’s sheer ignorance for your profession of love to be blind to an extremely jealous or overprotective partner.
It’s stupid to think you can change the wrong person, or listen to those who tell you to endure such a relationship or person because of what people will say.
There are things you should never endure in a marriage or relationship and it is not a sin if you separate from such. I know the stigma would be there but the shame you’d experience is better than for you to die untimely.
If you lost your life in a toxic relationship, people will talk more than when you quit the relationship. Don’t let people trend with your story because you uphold the wrong philosophy of “love is blind.”
On the flip side, love is blind when two people genuinely fall in love with each other and they don’t seem to match in physical appearance. Love can be blind to the mundane traits or flaws in your partner, but it should never be blind to real issues.
Based on understanding, love is blind when you ignore issues that won’t affect your life and health (physical, emotional, mental, spiritual) in that relationship.
For instance, if a partner can’t speak English or have a poor dress sense, love can be blind to this. The issue of love in marriage or a relationship should be focused more on the content of who you marry rather than the container.
Love can be blind to some issues regarding the “container” of the person you want to marry, but it shouldn’t be blind to the “content.” It is not the beauty or handsomeness of the person you’re in a relationship or you’d be married to that makes your marriage successful, it’s the content or what they carry on their inside that determines if your union will be successful or not.
So, what’s your understanding of “love is blind” that most people say?
If your love is blind to real issues in your partner, like they say, “Marriage will open it,” but it may be too late. Love isn’t blind, the likes of lust, infatuation, or inordinate affection make it blind.
Love sees what it likes, knows what it wants, and can tolerate what won’t destroy it; however, it is ignorance that endures what it should not embrace.
If anyone tells you that love is blind, don’t be blind to what you see or ignore what you should take seriously.