No good relationship formed on deception can stand the test of time. The foundation of your relationship matters a lot whether marital or friendship. If lies have been used to sustain the relationship, when it’s exposed to the light of truth, it will definitely collapse.
Don’t build your relationship on flattering, lies or pretense. A parasitic relationship is based on lies so as to exploit you.
Do not blindly enter into a relationship you don’t know its purpose. Why is he/she coming close to become a friend? Have you discovered his/her motives?
What are the things I must check? Is he lavishing you with money or gift so as to get something in return? Does he/she treat you like a baby, a pet or a queen/king? Within three to six months, you should be able to spell out the terms of the relationship relating to what he/she wants. When he/she demands more than they contribute, its a sign to take the available exit.
A relationship is parasitic if it drains your energy and resources such as time, money and concentration.
Sex is not love and love is not sex. There are more beneficial things that one can derive from his/her relationship other than sex. Is the relationship helping you to become a better person in all areas?
Do you help mutually or you’re selfish to help yourself? Do you tell lies to each other or you’re truthful? What brought you into the relationship – love or lust? Examine yourself.
A parasitic relationship will choke life out of you. You will waste time, money, energy, resources and the better part of your life on it.
If the relationship is not helping you to grow, it is best you help yourself or seek the help of others to come out of if. A relationship is meant to be enjoyed and not endured.” – By Danjuma Iliya.
