One of the mistakes people make in dating is assuming that their partner changed. “He was all loving, so sweet and caring when we met, not a day went by without him calling me but now he has totally changed, he doesn’t answer or return my missed calls”. “She was always happy seeing me, these days she acts around me, gives me short answers and is not straight forward”. These are just examples of numerous complains.
You said you are dating him or her; which means you are studying them. It also means you don’t know them. And when they tell you who they are, you assume they have changed. The truth is they didn’t change, they only removed the mask from their face so you will know who you are really dealing with.
The fact that she has a beautiful face doesn’t mean you know her that much, the fact that he makes time to have great conversation with you doesn’t mean you know him that much. But strange enough people fall for looks and conclude they have found the most beautiful person on earth. Soon they start to reveal their true identity, then you are confused and think they have changed.
Change is one of the most difficult things in life, change is not easy, change is hard, you are therefore wrong to believe they have changed just because you had a small argument or misunderstanding. They can be mad at you, upset with you but that is just temporary; its for a short period of time.
It is not possible for an honest man to suddenly become a dishonest person over a little quarrelling. It is not possible for a faithful man to turn into a cheat just because you had a disagreement. It is not true they fell out of love just because of the fight you had.
If they can easily change, what it means is they were pretending to be the opposite all this while, but you are just blessed to know their true colour now. Be thankful to God that their mask felt instead of trying to fix it back on.
Date with a purpose; fix your home before you go to the street to look for a tenant. Be committed to yourself, fix yourself, be a good person then go out to look for a friend who is like you or shares a lot in common. A friend who is ready to grow with you, not the one who will outgrow you.
Once the one you are dating reveals their true self to you, give them the gift of a break up; a break they need to work on themselves whilst you move on to find the right person.
You never beg them to stay and especially against their will. This is not the time for regret, not even if you once mistakenly introduced them to the most important people in your life as your husband or wife to be. Rather cherish the memories and move on. Never forget the lessons and never let an old flame burn you twice.
Don’t hold on to her because of a promise ring you gave her, for that won’t change her. Don’t hold on to him because you have a baby with him, that won’t change him either. Always remember a wrong person is just a few miles away from the right person. The right person in your life makes you better, saves you stress and money and you will always have laughter on your face.
In conclusion “And when all things are brought out to the light, then their true nature is clearly revealed” – Ephesians 5:13 (GNT).
