Another sad reality in our part of the world is that people put work above the family forgetting that, much of the hustle we go through is because of our family. We go out to work, to take care of ourselves and our family. Unfortunately, in most marriages, couples put their work above their spouse and their family.
Husbands especially do this a lot; we dedicate most of our time to work and give little to the people who are dear to us. But when the very work stresses us up, the people we fall on or come to is the family, our spouses. When we are sick, it’s the family which is there for us through thin and thick. The family or our spouses are the ones who give us the best of care, be by our side through the dark night and at the hospital, yet when we get better, we fail to appreciate or thank them for being there for us.
To us, it is their role as a family and they don’t need any appreciation from us. Once we are better, we choose work over them. We put work first and the family last. When we are fired from work, it is the family we come to, they don’t fail to take care of us with the little at hand, they do their best to accommodate our frustration as a result of loss of job and even encourage us to see the bright side of life.
But when we get a new job opportunity, we put them last. When the family or spouse complains, they are tagged as naggers. When it comes to taking decisions on the job path, we don’t discuss with the family or consider their input. We don’t factor them into such decisions. We don’t really care if the job will take us away from the family as long as it is paying good money.
Our spouses don’t know how much we earn or what we do with our money. We ignore them, buy the latest gadgets, big phones and put big passwords and locks on them. We buy the latest car and carry the latest ladies in town. We completely forget our family, our wife and our children. We don’t have a better relationship at home.
Sadly, lots of people have lost their spouses to jobs, many have lost their children to jobs. They don’t spend quality time with their children, so they grow apart. A good number of people listen to their bosses than they listen to their spouses. They pay better attention to work-related issues than their spouse.
We forget one day we will come back to the very people we neglected or ignored in our pursuit of money. Don’t expect your family, spouse, children to give you their best when you are back home with illness, on retirement when all you did was to give them the least.
Some people can be so busy with work that, when their wife or children are hospitalized, they just send others to attend to them instead of being there. When you make time for your spouse or children or family in times like that, you are not only showing them love or support, but you are telling them, their lives are more important to you than anything else. You show them how important they are to you.
In conclusion “Do not withhold good from those to whom it is due [its rightful recipients], When it is in your power to do it” – Proverbs 3:27 (AMP).
