Lots of people wonder why most relationships do not last these days; the truth is, many men love a lady because of her beauty. Just as they are attracted by what they see, they want to have you. It is so easy for a man to propose to a lady these days without knowing anything about her.
One thing they don’t know is that charm can be deceptive; what is attracting them, what they are fascinated about, what they call glamour, what they see appealing could be misleading. They mistake that for character or personality.
No wonder a lot of relationships with such beautiful looks don’t last. Beauty surely does not last. Such relationship starts with a very early proposal and most of them are built on a foundation of promises, then at the end of the day, it leaves the souls with hurts because the promises were not fulfilled. The forever was all lies.
Lasting relationship requires a man who will love a woman by her character. Such men see the character of the woman and not her beauty. Such relationships take time, such men want to know who you are, the spirit in that body, they go beneath the beauty.
Such relationships have great conversation, they are built on solid friendship, they don’t rush things. It is rather unfortunate that we have few guys who still love a woman by seeing her character.
Such relationships are not fueled by lust; the men respect the woman because of her character. Such women fear God and their men love them, and are proud of them. This man cannot request a nude picture from her, that just can’t happen. He feels uncomfortable when her body is exposed and tries to cover or cloth her.
When a man just loves you by your beauty, he prefers touching your body than understanding your mind, so after sex, he is disconnected from you. No more calls unless they are in the mood again. The conversation has only one direction. “I miss you, I can’t wait to hold you, I can’t wait to make love to you”, etc.
Such men easily get tired of you when they are done with your body. Sometimes it takes a whole day for them just to reply your chat or text. They use work and busy schedules as an excuse but ready to cancel those schedules or put them on hold when they are in the mood for you.
The one that loves you by your character replies your messages fast, never gets tired of your pointless stories, makes time out of their busy schedule to talk to you. Even though they are busy, you are constantly present in their talk. They make you feel you actually matter to them.
For the one who loves you by your beauty, whenever they are in the mood, they see you when they close their eyes and think of what they can do to your body when they see you. So each time they miss your beauty, they want to have sex with you. Each time they come around, it’s all about your body. It’s hard to have a meaningful conversation. It’s hard to meet without sex.
But the one that loves you by your character can actually hear your voice in their mind even when they miss you or when they read your messages. Each time they miss you, they call to hear your voice and know you are fine.
In conclusion “Charm can be deceptive and beauty doesn’t last, but a woman who fears and reverences God shall be greatly praised” – Proverbs 30:31 (TLB).