Trust is one basic ingredient everyone who wants to get married and stay married should go into a relationship with. To be called a trustworthy person or someone worth trusting is a reward on its own. It drives away fear from the relationship, gives yourself and your partner confidence and security because a trusted person is a reliable person.
People start relationships these days on a foundation of lies. They lie about everything including themselves. They lie about their family, educational qualification, job, earning, relationship status, past relationships, etc and yet want someone to trust them with their heart and life.
You don’t lie about how much you earn just to keep a relationship or with the fear that the one you want to be with will leave you when they know the truth. What you are simply saying is that your partner won’t accept the real you, which is a red flag. Lying about your earnings puts more pressure on you. It’s not how much you earn that has the power to keep a relationship but the size of your commitment.
You don’t have to lie about your age just to keep a relationship or to avoid being seen as old. The Success of a relationship goes beyond the age of someone. What keeps the relationship is maturity; how responsible you are to tackle the issues in the relationship.
You don’t need to lie about your past relationship, behaviour, number of Exes, children, just to keep a relationship. We all made mistakes in the past, the past does not define us. You need someone who sees you as a gift and is willing to enjoy the present and build a future with you.
A relationship built on lies has no future. It gives birth to betrayal. It doesn’t matter how small the lies are. Lies are lies. You may tell small lies today and make someone get into a relationship with you but it doesn’t end there. You might have to tell more lies in the near future to cover up the old lies told.
If you don’t trust yourself and because of that you can’t trust anyone else then don’t get into a relationship with anyone. If someone agrees to be in a relationship with you, it means they trust you. Trust is the first step in any relationship especially that of marriage.
If you are in a relationship with someone and you found out they lied to you and because of that you can’t trust them, let go the relationship rather than trying to equalize or begin lying to them so they feel the pain you felt. You are too good for that.
It is therefore important you don’t lie to someone who trusts you. When they find out you lied to them, it is hard for them to trust you. They will doubt you and question every line of truth and investigate them. No lover will steal your phone just to read your messages or chat if you started your relationship on honesty without telling them lies. They won’t suspect you in anyway or follow you around.
Always remember, anytime you tell your partner a lie for whatever reason, you are killing the trust in the relationship. If they are suspecting you or telling you they don’t trust you, there is a greater chance that you lied to them. And no matter how hard you try to cover up what you are hiding with lies, you are likely to lose the relationship; and not just that, you also leave hurt and a bad resume as a lair. It is always a blessing to tell the truth. Even if they leave you as a result, they know you as an honest person.
It is an undeniable fact that the lion is a very beautiful animal but one takes precaution when looking at it and they do it from a distance. It is same with a lair, no matter how beautiful or handsome they are, you watch them from a distance. You don’t get so close to the extent of having a relationship or getting married to them. You hurt yourself.
In conclusion, “Lying lips are extremely disgusting to the Lord, But those who deal faithfully are His delight” – Proverbs 12:22 (AMP).