We all want love, a lot of us are in love, but most of us miss the one thing that goes along with love and that is UNDERSTANDING.
Love is natural, its in our family, our friendship, relationship, marriages, you see relation fighting even when there is love but no understanding but family is different from friendship/relationship/marriage, because this is about two different people from different culture, tribe, characters coming together so just love is not enough, you need understanding, so see lovers fighting over and over again, they love themselves but they keep fighting, why?
It’s because lack of understanding, you see a man that loves his wife but at every single mistake he would hit the wife, now as a man you should understand that you’re not supposed to hit your wife/girl, but most men do because they don’t understand what it takes to be a woman because trying to understand someone is just putting yourself in their shoes to know how they feel, their sadness, joy, sorrow.
It takes time to understand someone, that’s why you start from friendship because you see friendship + relationship = knowledge and that knowledge is what you need to go into marriage because the character you possess in being friends and lovers is what you will see in marriage and that’s why you don’t have to rush in marriage because people don’t really know there is a difference in getting married and settling down (will talk about that later).
You see a man will quarrel with his wife because she cooked late and each time she does that, he will quarrel with her but you never ask why, because you lack understanding that there is a reason for everything, and as a wife, you saw how your husband reacted when you cooked late and you repeated it over and over again.
Long story cut short is that the point about understanding is so that you can see an alternative to come out when there is confusion instead of ending in violence or quarrel. Written by Danjuma Iliya.
