1: Marry a man that has sense enough to know that paying your bride price is not equal to buying you and turning you to family property.
2: Marry a man who has sense enough to know that marrying you is not doing you a favour.
3: Marry a man that has sense enough to know that you are supposed to have cramps and mood swings during your monthly circle, and shouldn’t use it against you.
4: Marry a man who has sense enough to know that as a woman you also have a right to say “NO” to sex at times and if he must have his way he should at least try to make you happy and put you in the mood.
5: Marry a man who has sense enough to know that after childbirth you are supposed to have stretch marks, big stomach, sag boobs and not too good shape, and he shouldn’t because of that compare you to a sweet 16, your sag boobs or stretch marks is a sign of motherhood.
(Although you can work it out and be back to shape which is proper.)
6: Marry a man who has sense enough to know that there are times you are just too tired to cook, and him taking you to the eatery to eat dinner or him fixing the meal that day to save you the stress is not a taboo.
7: Marry a man who has sense enough to know that you have a right to voice out your frustration, a right to agree and disagree, a right to air your opinions.
8: Marry a man who has sense enough to know that you deserve to hear “sorry” from him and he’s obliged to plead and ask for forgiveness when he errs and not use his headship as a means to escape saying “sorry”
9: Marry a man who has sense enough to know that hitting a lady is a crime against humanity.
10: Marry a man who loves your soul not just your body and who enjoys talking to you always
May you find such a man in Jesus name.
