When people are leaving relationships, others are quick to tell them, no one is perfect and they might end up with someone similar to or worse than the partner they are leaving, which is not always true. Citing that nobody is perfect so instead of leaving, they should stay. Some go to the extent that, when you leave, you won’t end up in a stable relationship because no one is perfect. As if that is not enough you are told “the devil you know is better than the angel you don’t know”.
People don’t just leave a relationship especially one which is working or one which is peaceful. People leave because they are not happy, their partner is not being real or honest. Leaving a relationship which is not working does not make you someone with a bad character or someone who cannot keep a good or healthy relationship. The basic understanding of a relationship is that, it involves two people. As much as you want someone to be with you, you need to be honest with the person.
Without honesty the relationship won’t last. Couples who are honest with each other have the best of understanding, they have the highest form of intimacy, the bond between them is strong, the connection is better; communication flows easily. Trust is established and they are loyal to each other.
People who want to be close to you are the ones who are honest with you. If your partner is the type that hides things from you, who is not transparent, open and honest, you cannot be close to them. Unfortunately, not everyone in a relationship is honest these days. Therefore, relationships are falling apart, for lack of the power which keeps the two close.
It’s an insult to say, you don’t want to lose your partner yet you are not honest with them. You know deep within you, you are not ready for marriage, why propose marriage to her? You know you are not ready for a child, why have sex with her? You know you have other men in your life, why lie that he is the only one you know and are with? We can save each other the trouble, heartache, drama by being honest.
Why lie that you love him, want to stay with him but you entertain other men, and even hide your conversations and moments with others from your partner? Why do you panic when she takes your phone if you have nothing to hide? Why do you want her to trust you yet you act suspiciously? Who are you deceiving?
Nobody is perfect, we are not looking for a perfect partner. And no one person or human being can be perfect. But one thing is sure, which is, human beings can be is transparent, truthful, honest, open. When you are honest with your partner, you make it easier for them to trust you, you close doors to doubts because honesty breeds clarity. For those dating, whose partner is finding it hard to make decisions on the future of the relationship, lack of honesty can be the reason.
In conclusion, “If you are good, you are guided by honesty. People who can’t be trusted are destroyed by their own dishonesty” – Proverbs 11:3 (GNT).