Sometimes you don’t get it, why will someone you love, and so much crazy about, and have him or her at heart, and will cross any river for, mistreat you? Why will someone you will give your life for treat you bad. And you think the problem is you? NO please, the problem is not you; only those who don’t love themselves mistreat the wonderful person in their lives.
No matter how good or nice you are, people who don’t love themselves will not see your value. People who love themselves appreciate their life, value what they have and the people in their lives.
If you find yourself in such a relationship, then it’s time you distance yourself; pray for them from afar so they become better for themselves but not necessarily for you. The more you stay with such people the more you get confused. “Why” becomes your new chorus or anthem. “Why don’t you see I love you” “Why are you hurting me” “Why you don’t appreciate all that I do for you” These become the verses of your song.
What you get in return is heartache, headache and pains. You cannot be happy with such people so you have to learn to outgrow them. Women who try all their best thinking you can change a man like that, for your information, it is far easier to raise a loving child than to repair a damaged man. Only God can do that. So please outsource.
Thoughts of living alone should not scare you, thoughts of starting a new relationship should not get you sick. It is much better than living with a face that looks at you with wrong eyes. It is bad sharing a heart that doesn’t beat for you.
The fact that you can’t change them means you have to change yourself rather. You need to know that the people we tie our lives with either raise or lower our standard. They are either helping you to become the best version of yourself or encouraging you to become the worst version of yourself.
You don’t need someone who makes you the worst but someone who makes you the best; someone who encourages you, believes you in and challenges you to become better. The bible says “A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need” – Proverbs 17:17 (NLT). You need a friend who is loyal to you, who stands by you whether your pockets are empty or full, who lets you be yourself, who grows with you, always patient with you, understands you and sees things from your point of view.
That friend is the first person you call when you have something good to celebrate, someone you can call when you have bad news to share. Always bear in mind, life doesn’t change, but people do. So learn to accept that not everybody is who you thought you knew, and when they show you their true colours, please accept it and don’t try to repaint it.
“There are “friends” who destroy each other, but a real friend sticks closer than a brother” – Proverbs 18:24 (NLT).
