An emotionally mature partner is the best type of partner to have. If both of you are emotionally mature, the relationship will last. These qualities deepen the love and connection between you and your partner.
Emotional maturity has little to do with the age of a husband or wife and more to do with their levels of emotional intelligence as individuals. Mature people find it hard to be with those who are immature. If you have ever been with an emotionally immature person, you can attest to this. If your partner depicts the qualities below, cherish the relationship and strive to reciprocate by maintaining your emotional maturity too. It’s refreshing and fulfilling to love a partner like this.
🚩 Self awareness. The emotionally mature partner knows who he or she is, needs, and wants. You have a role in their life, and they know it well. They, therefore, treat you with kindness the way they want you to treat them. Remember, they are aware of what they want from the relationship. Therefore, they won’t mess with your feelings and give you mixed signals. Since they understand their emotions, they can perceive and understand your feelings. They will be straightforward with you and have confidence in your relationship because they value it.
🚩 Forgiveness Couples have difficulties and disagreements sometimes. Both of you might have qualities, behaviors, or attitudes which bother the other. So, forgiveness is key to the survival of your relationship. An emotionally mature partner will forgive you even before you ask for forgiveness. Or they will tell you when you have hurt them instead of harboring resentment or directing abusive language or behavior toward you.
🚩 Humility An emotionally mature partner asks for forgiveness even for the minor mistakes that you would otherwise have ignored. Because they are self-aware, they will know when they have done something that displeases you and apologize for it. But also, they won’t apologize unnecessarily. They won’t apologize just because you are giving a different opinion.
🚩 Owning mistakes You know how to apologize when you’ve done wrong. No excuses. You’ll admit your mistakes and try to find ways of rectifying the situation. You also don’t have the desire to be right all the time. Instead, you’ll acknowledge that you indeed don’t have “all the answers.
🚩 Showing empathy Emotionally mature individuals approach life by doing as much good as they can and supporting those around them. You know how to put yourself in someone else’s shoes. Meaning, you often feel more concern for others and try to find ways of helping.
🚩 Being unafraid of vulnerability You’re always willing to open up and share your own struggles so others feel less alone. You’re also not interested in being seen as “perfect” all the time. Emotional maturity means being honest about your feelings and building trust with those around you because you don’t have an agenda.
🚩 Recognizing and accepting needs Those with emotional maturity can admit when they need help or when they’re burning out. For example, you’ll acknowledge when you need a break and know when to ask your boss for a day off. You’re also able to clearly communicate with your partner for more help around the house.
🚩 Acknowledges and takes full ownership of his uncomfortable feelings. Throughout our lives we experience a range of uncomfortable and sometimes unwanted feelings. We always have a choice. We can acknowledge and take ownership of them or try to ignore and get rid of them. Unfortunately, the latter option only leads to more emotional pain and to more complicated psychological problems such as depression. As physical pain indicates something is wrong with the body, emotional pain indicates that something is wrong with the soul.
🚩 Is curious about the meaning of his feelings rather than being afraid of them Feelings are information and have unique personalized meanings. They are our teachers. The path to self-discovery and greater self-knowledge lies in unlocking the lessons embedded in our feelings and being able to listen to the messages they have to teach us.
🚩 They can provide emotional support to their partners. Emotional support comes in many different forms, including everything from providing a shoulder to cry on to celebrating a happy achievement. An emotionally mature partner will take on their partner’s emotional ups and downs and will be there for them to offer encouragement and consolation when necessary. People with average or higher levels of emotional maturity have a reasonable amount of control of their own emotions that they’re able to handle other people’s feelings too.
🚩 They communicate effectively using an appropriate communication style during arguments (and during peaceful times). A partner with emotional maturity seeks to resolve conflict rather than making conflicts grow bigger and bigger. Instead of blaming, using insults or abusive talk, or speaking poorly of themselves, the person will take responsibility for their part of the problem and consider possible solutions that will work for both partners. An emotionally mature person recognizes that conflict has value and strives to find a positive outcome.
