1) Not all relationships must lead to marriage. Some relationships are for a reason, others are for a season and only few are for a life time. So if a relationship doesn’t work out, don’t kill yourself because it was for something. Some lessons are only learnt in relationships, so discover the purpose and move on.
2) Don’t give a man or a woman the totality of your heart before giving the totality of your heart to God. Love that person but put God first.
3) Don’t get carried away with beauty or money. If that person’s inner person cannot keep you, his money or her beauty cannot either.
4) Love is never enough, understanding, compatibility, wisdom, patience and tolerance are equally important.
5) Never borrow that lie that you have to feel someone before you love him. Many people think they’re in a wrong marriage, if not relationships, but little do they know, that love is more of a decision than a feeling. Whenever you decide to love someone, feelings of love follow and the same applies to hate. Whenever you hate someone, hate feelings will always make you see the wrongs in the one you once loved. In Romans 12,Paul tells us to love our enemies and do good to those who hate us. When Paul teaches us that, it’s clear that God has given us the ability to love even our enemies.
There is power in the word love and when you decide to love your enemy, you easily become friends because the code of hate that brings enmity has been broken by your love decision. Choose to love and the right feelings will follow. Written by Danjuma Iliya.
