Gen. 2:18-24. (TOLERANCE)
When young people are still single and bubbling with zeal, they often find it difficult to reconcile misunderstandings, and this does not augur well for good family relationship. You often hear some of them exclaim, ” I will not tolerate nonsense when I marry.”
There are places you may not tolerate nonsense but certainly not in marriage and family. This is so, because’ nonsense” is often a part of marriage. Now, what and what should one tolerate in the family in order to have a stable, happy marriage and home.
1) TOLERATE THE UNAVOIDABLE NONSENSES IN MARRIAGE.
Marriage is a deep well that contains a lot of unwanted nonsenses. These nonsenses can be found in husbands, wives, children, members of the extended family, and even friends and strangers to your family. If one does not tolerate such occasional nonsenses in marriage, you may be very surprised to see your marriage falling apart.
2) TOLERATE THE NAGGING HABITS OF YOUR PARTNER.
Nagging can be contagious in the family. Silence is the antidote that stops these infectious diseases from spreading. However, nagging seems to be part of a marriage relationship. If after marriage you discover to your dismay and discomfort that your partner is a nagger, all you have to do is learn to tolerate. After the wind comes the breeze. Do something positive or practical response to help stop the things that ignite nagging.
3) TOLERATE SOME ACTIONS THAT ARE ALIEN TO YOUR PERSONAL LIFESTYLE.
Marriage sometimes is the combination of two extremes. Like in the case of Abigail and Nabal. It could be possible to have couples whose lifestyles are in the opposite direction. In such case. What do you do to remain happy and stable? Don’t listen to those telling you that you are not compatible with him or her, but tolerate. Remember, you have one family to build. Out of this family could emerge the person the world needs. No sacrifice will be too great for you to pay to keep your family together and happy for life.
4) TOLERATE THE UNUSUAL BEHAVIOURS OF A PREGNANT OR NURSING WIFE.
Some men are specialist and experts in intercepting the murmuring and heart complaints of their wives. From bed -room they hear through the walls, the murmuring of pregnant wives in the kitchen. Even when such wives are quarrelling with their food items or movement of babies in the womb. The best a husband can do at such time is to understand and tolerate such unusual actions.
5) TOLERATE THE UNDESIRABLE ACTIONS OF A HUSBAND UNDER FINANCIAL PRESSURE.
Nothing makes a happy like knowing that he is the breadwinner of the family. Just like last of pregnancy upsets wives, so lack of money to meet family demands upsets and dampens a man’s zeal. Good wives should not mind the behaviors of a penniless husband. Everything provokes and annoys a man who can not fend for his family. If a wife has money while the husband is suffering such a case, she should let loose her purse to heal the man.
6) TOLERATE TIME WASTING NATURE OF YOUR WIFE AND PRACTICALLY HELP HER.
No good housewife leaves her home at a stretch. She will always go back to the room to make sure that things are safe. There are many things which wives see and men do not see, and this makes them want to make sure. The way to help your wife get ready quick for church service or ceremonies and parties, is not to dress up in ten minutes, dash out to the stiring and begin to blast the horn in the neighborhood in quest to quicken your wife. Husband who have learnt the secrets of family governance will do two things to avoid waste of time. They will wake up their wives one or two hours prior to time of departures. They will help practically and manually to see that their wives are ready to go.
