Have you ever had your heart broken? Like, really broken? The kind of heartbreak that feels like a sharp knife through your heart? It’s horrific, and it feels like it’s never going to go away.
Break-ups suck, but if it’s any comfort, you’re certainly not alone. Most people have experienced it and I don’t think there are many words to express the intensity of it all. We all try different ways to stop the pain, to get over it and to find and feel loved again.
I just want to assure you that no matter how lost and alone you may feel right now, there is healing ahead. While being sad, confused and hurt at the end of a relationship is totally normal, it might help to pinpoint how you’re feeling and work through it.
Here are the stages you would likely go through:
1) SHOCK AND DIS-BELIEF – No matter what went down — someone cheating, not enough attention, domestic issues, etc, the first thing that happens after your first big breakup is total shock and disbelief — even if you saw it coming. Some part of you believed that love could conquer all. But, here you are, and you can’t believe it’s over. You also can’t believe how much it hurts. How could anything hurt this much? Love is officially dead forever. You’ll never love anyone like that again.
2) RAGE – How dare they hurt me like this? Who the f*ck do they think they are anyway? They were lucky to have had me and they threw it all away. You may even feel like right about now is a good time for some revenge. I know it’s hard.
3) SADNESS AND REGRET: First, you care, then you hurt. It makes you sad and makes you ask yourself the question; Am I not good enough? Am I not handsome or beautiful?
The day you start asking this question to yourself is the day you will lose yourself. And that is the most dangerous thing in the world. Sorrow sets in and the crying begins and tears flow.
4) ACCEPTANCE: From crying with pillows to smiling off the broken hearts, you grow up. Despite your best efforts to stay sad, you have to admit, getting out with your family and friends do actually make you feel better. Some people are not meant to be together. You’re afraid to admit that you just learnt the lesson but graudally you do.
5) MOVE ON: You’re not ready to date again, but you realize you actually forgot that your heart was broken for a few days. Miracles do happen, and you open up!
