Where you meet a man, tells what he can do or offer you. If you meet him as a gate man, expect a gate man’s answer from him not that of the house owner. You never ask the cost of the house from a gate man. You never ask a gate man to take you where materials for the house were bought or its cost. He can help you with who you want to see in the house, whether the owner is at home or not, or to open the gate for you; but not to build a house for you.
Same applies to marriage, you never ask a man who is not ready for marriage “when are you going to see my parents?” You never ask a boy “when are you coming for the engagement list?” He doesn’t have the right answer for you; the best he can do is to remain mute, get angry or waste your time. The choice is already yours.
Ladies need to know that what a man wants from you all depends on where he is at in life. Is he ready for marriage? Or Available for fun? A man either wants to lie down with your body or lie down with your soul.
If he wants you when you knew he was not ready for marriage, chances are he wants to lie down with your body. Don’t give in and thereby present him with many rules and conditions to obey. He might soon graduate.
Don’t agree to sleep with him because he says he will marry you even when he is ready at the moment. When he is ready, you might not be the right person for him. He will surely meet someone else.
If you meet him living with his parents, leave him there, if you agree to be with him in the name of relationship, then stop asking when he is leaving to rent his own apartment. If he was ready, he could have left before or even soon after you met him.
If he was boarding keke before you met him and you want to be with him, stop asking him when is he buying a car or forcing him to take a car loan because your ideal husband must have his own car. It’s better to wait for your ideal kind of man than to put up with Mr. Keke
If when you met him he was not working, let him get a job before you date him. But once you agree to date a jobless man, stop disturbing him with job search for he is comfortable being jobless.
If you met him as a flirt, leave him to his profession, don’t get into a relationship with him with the hope that you are enough for him because of your beauty. In case you don’t know, the beautiful ones are not yet born, which means there are more beautiful women yet to come after you or yet to be discovered by him. The question is, will he still have his eyes set on you alone? Will he leave all the women in the world for you. After marriage will he let your breasts satisfy him alone and never dare to look elsewhere?
And if you are coming from a relationship which didn’t work or didn’t lead to marriage, don’t let anyone lead you into making the same mistakes. Failure in a relationship means you should take your time, learn your lessons and go into your next relationship wiser. You never let anyone take you back to a class you already graduated from. That’s not growth.
In conclusion “If you want favor with both God and man, and a reputation for good judgment and common sense, then trust the Lord completely; don’t ever trust yourself” – Proverbs 3:4-5 (TLB).