She says: “I want a God-fearing man who is financially stable, with broad chest and six packs, tall, dark and handsome, great Charisma, well-educated, caring, pampers me a lot, sings me to sleep, and best of all, good in bed”.
Then he says: “I want a God-fearing woman who can cook, clean, has respect, down to earth, beautiful, full breasts, heavy backside, curves in the right places, and best of all, good in bed”.
So here I am thinking to myself, and the first question I ask is, WHY DO THEY ALWAYS START WITH “GOD-FEARING”?… Everytime someone is asked that question, they start with God-fearing. And then every other thing that follows that “God-fearing” is usually never God-fearing at all.
So basically, ladies want a “God-fearing” sexy man who can use his manly characteristics to blow them away into a “different realm”.
Then the men want a “God-fearing” fearing curvy and sweet-looking girl.
Sometimes the “God-fearing” is just for formalities.
Sister just tell us you want “a guy with the bad-boy persona, although it would be great if he knows the Lord too.”
Oga just tell us you want “a lady with the sexy-girl charisma, although it would be great if she’s a prayer warrior.”
Just be honest to yourself about it. Nobody will kill you. It’s not a bad thing to think about.
Let me make this clear:
𝑰𝒕 𝒊𝒔 𝒏𝒐𝒕 𝒘𝒓𝒐𝒏𝒈 𝒕𝒐 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒌 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒚𝒐𝒖 𝒄𝒂𝒏 𝒈𝒆𝒕 𝒂𝒍𝒍 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒂𝒃𝒐𝒗𝒆 𝒒𝒖𝒂𝒍𝒊𝒕𝒊𝒆𝒔 𝒚𝒐𝒖’𝒓𝒆 𝒍𝒐𝒐𝒌𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒇𝒐𝒓 𝒊𝒏 𝒐𝒏𝒆 𝒑𝒆𝒓𝒔𝒐𝒏. 𝒀𝒐𝒖’𝒓𝒆 𝒐𝒏 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒓𝒊𝒈𝒉𝒕 𝒕𝒓𝒂𝒄𝒌 𝒘𝒊𝒕𝒉 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 𝒎𝒆𝒏𝒕𝒂𝒍𝒊𝒕𝒚. 𝑩𝒖𝒕 𝒕𝒉𝒆 𝒕𝒉𝒊𝒏𝒈 𝒊𝒔, 𝒀𝑶𝑼 𝑨𝑹𝑬 𝑾𝑹𝑶𝑵𝑮 𝑻𝑶 𝑻𝑯𝑰𝑵𝑲 𝒀𝑶𝑼 𝑪𝑨𝑵 𝑮𝑬𝑻 𝑰𝑻 𝑨𝑳𝑳 𝑨𝑻 𝑶𝑵𝑪𝑬! Many a time, which is most of the time, it never happens that way.
Sis, you have been praying for a guy with all the above listed qualities, and then you meet him, and he has everything, except that he is not financially stable, and so you dump him. That’s a mistake.
Bro, you be praying your head off for a woman with the above listed qualities, and then you meet her, and she has all the qualities, except that she doesn’t know how to cook, so you dump her. Big mistake.
𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐧𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫𝐲𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮’𝐫𝐞 𝐥𝐨𝐨𝐤𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐚𝐥𝐥 𝐚𝐭 𝐨𝐧𝐜𝐞. 𝐔𝐬𝐮𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐰𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐦, 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐢𝐬 𝐦𝐢𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐧𝐠. 𝐓𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐝𝐨𝐞𝐬𝐧’𝐭 𝐦𝐞𝐚𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐝𝐨𝐧’𝐭 𝐦𝐞𝐞𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐜𝐫𝐢𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐚 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐚 𝐬𝐩𝐨𝐮𝐬𝐞.
The first thing you must bring into play here is what I’ve been teaching you before now…. IF YOUR VISIONS ALIGN, you’re actually good to go. Then for all those other things missing, it is left for YOU to bring them into existence.
His vision aligns with yours, but he doesn’t dress well, has no fashion sense, and passes the wrong first impression with his physical appearance… well then, BECOME HIS PERSONAL STYLIST. Groom him physically. Change his wardrobe. He isn’t financially stable? Help him become financially stable. Help him save money. Help him build his finances. You marry him and you find out he’s not good in bed… HELP HIM LEARN. Practise moves together. Make research together. Educate one another. Work on different positions. Talk about your likes and dislikes. Don’t just run away…. STAY AND BUILD!
Her vision aligns with yours, but she doesn’t have the “figure 8” you want? Well, TAKE HER TO THE GYM AND WORK ON THAT BEHIND! She doesn’t know how to cook? TEACH HER! You too don’t know to cook? LEARN TOGETHER! You marry her, and she ain’t good in bed? Help her learn. Educate her. Carefully point out your preferences, and patiently work together towards achieving it! Don’t just run away…. STAY AND BUILD!
People have put away the one God presented to them, and left marriages, for the silliest and most pathetic reasons, and many have remained single because of their mindset of finding the perfect mate. Very stupid and famished reasons.
What you must understand is, 𝙂𝙤𝙙 𝙘𝙖𝙣 𝙣𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙧 𝙥𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙖 𝙛𝙞𝙣𝙞𝙨𝙝𝙚𝙙 𝙥𝙧𝙤𝙙𝙪𝙘𝙩. 𝙃𝙚 𝙥𝙧𝙚𝙨𝙚𝙣𝙩𝙨 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙬𝙞𝙩𝙝 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙧𝙖𝙬 𝙢𝙖𝙩𝙚𝙧𝙞𝙖𝙡. 𝙄𝙩 𝙞𝙨 𝙣𝙤𝙬 𝙡𝙚𝙛𝙩 𝙛𝙤𝙧 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙩𝙤 𝙩𝙪𝙧𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙖𝙩 𝙧𝙖𝙬 𝙢𝙖𝙩𝙚𝙧𝙞𝙖𝙡 𝙞𝙣𝙩𝙤 𝙬𝙝𝙞𝙘𝙝𝙚𝙫𝙚𝙧 𝙛𝙞𝙣𝙞𝙨𝙝𝙚𝙙 𝙥𝙧𝙤𝙙𝙪𝙘𝙩 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙬𝙖𝙣𝙩 𝙞𝙩 𝙩𝙤 𝙗𝙚.
God never gave us tables and chairs… He gave us trees. From those trees, we were able to produce tables, chairs, and even papers.
God never gives you a baby…. He gives you sperm cells and ova. These two raw materials then meet to produce a baby.
God never gives money… He gives the raw material for getting money in form of IDEAS. This is the power to make wealth.
So how come you think God is going to present you a finished product as a life partner? Why are you rejecting the one God gave you just because they don’t meet up with your ridiculous list?! Are you mad?!
It’s like giving you a bag or rice, and you reject it, because it doesn’t have onions, pepper, and other ingredients that should make it jollof rice… or giving you a live chicken, and you reject it because it’s not crispy and crunchy the way you want it. You dey crase?! Comon wiliu go to the kitchen and prepare it osiiso! Is like you wanna see crazy.
Look, I know you have written a list of things you want in a man or a woman, and ridiculous as some of them may be, I won’t ask you to tear the list up, but I will tell you to be prepared, because you’re going to be the one to fulfil that list. You want a perfect mate? Be ready to build one. Stop expecting one, unless you want to remain single, only to then desperately and carelessly pick a mate at 47.
By the way, as you’re looking for someone perfect, try to build yourself towards perfection too. You can’t be a food-infested fat-ass slob, but you need a chiseled man. You can’t have the character of the devil, but you want a God-fearing mate. You can’t be non-caring, and you’re looking for someone who is caring. You can’t be lazy and be looking for down-to-earth. Are you normal?! Is like you want to kneel down and hands up. You know I don’t like what I hate.
There is no perfect man or woman anywhere. Write this down so that you don’t forget!
Rudeboy of P-square did justice to this in his song, where he sang, “If you’re looking for that perfect woman, well, GO BUILD HER YOURSELF.” (Listen to good meaningful songs, not some of these nonsense y’all be listening to).
Write this somewhere: 𝙔𝙤𝙪 𝙙𝙤𝙣’𝙩 𝙛𝙞𝙣𝙙 𝙥𝙚𝙧𝙛𝙚𝙘𝙩 𝙥𝙚𝙤𝙥𝙡𝙚; 𝙮𝙤𝙪 𝙁𝙄𝙉𝘿 𝘾𝙊𝙈𝙋𝙇𝙀𝙏𝙀 𝙋𝙀𝙊𝙋𝙇𝙀, 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙣 𝘾𝙍𝙀𝘼𝙏𝙀 𝙋𝙀𝙍𝙁𝙀𝘾𝙏 𝙋𝙀𝙊𝙋𝙇𝙀 𝙤𝙪𝙩 𝙤𝙛 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙢. 𝙒𝙝𝙤 𝙖𝙢 𝙄 𝙨𝙥𝙚𝙖𝙠𝙞𝙣𝙜 𝙩𝙤?
