I wonder why most ladies will accept to date or be in a relationship with a man who already has a girlfriend, and yet cry foul because he is not letting go of the first lady and claims to love the two. The reason he gives for not letting go of the first woman is “she has not done any wrong, so it is not fair to break up with her”.
Any lady who accepts to be with such a man is not only desperate but also fooling. Such a man is not intelligent either and you should be able to tell how intelligent he is by how stupid he thinks you are.
Obviously he sees you the second lady unwise that is why he is playing such games with you, knowing very well that he will not be comfortable if you date him alongside another man at the same time.
We don’t date to see if the person will hurt you or not. That is not the aim of dating. Even when you are married, no matter how much you love your spouse, they will hurt you; so hurt is not litmus for leaving or holding on to a relationship.
As a man, you date a woman to find out if she believes in your vision, believes in you as a friend, someone you can lead, if she is someone who can support you and be helpful, someone who is ready to go to the same direction with you. Someone you can flow with, someone you can have a great conversation with, someone you can talk about everything with, Someone who loves God more than you.
You might meet a woman who is very beautiful, God fearing but doesn’t believe in you, doesn’t flow with you. It means she won’t be the right partner for you on the marital journey. The best you can do is to let such a person go. Not because they hurt you but because you are a wrong pair, you don’t fit into each other’s destiny. You can’t travel the same path.
But a man who will want to hold on to a woman knowing she doesn’t have all these qualities but still wants to add to her is an unfaithful man. He is not real, a double faced human being, you don’t even know where to slap.
The bible says “No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other’- Matthew 6:24 (NIV). No man can love two women the same. If he is keeping the two, chances are that, he doesn’t love either of you or only loves one.
The reason why he cannot let go the first partner is because of the promises and commitments made, the loyalty and love he has for her. You the second person might just be in his life for the sake of fun or benefit he is enjoying. Once he is not getting that again, the relationship is over. He will go back to the original or first partner.
The question to you the second lady now is why are you holding on to this man when he has shown you he is not real? You don’t have to trust words, even his actions you should question. For a man with such patterns, there is no doubt he is unfaithful.
Let him go! Be such a loyal woman that men will leave everything to be with you. Be a woman that other men will envy your man. If a man loves your soul, who you are, he will end up loving you alone. But if he is dating others beside you, it means he is just in love with your face or body.
In conclusion “A good man hates lies; wicked men lie constantly and come to shame” – Proverbs 13:5 (TLB).
