Well, you won’t meet 100 people today, without 97 of them haven’t experienced broken heart in their life before. Its impact is another topic we need to discuss later.
Now let’s see how we can limit these broken heart’s in the system;
1) STOP EXPECTING TOO MUCH FROM PEOPLE;
My dear humans can change, fail, disappoint, etc. When you don’t expect much from people, you will always be okay with any outcome from their part.
2) STOP RULING OUT THAT EVERY RELATIONSHIP YOU ENTER SHOULD END IN MARRIAGE ;
Dating is a decision time (Interview). Your partner can choose to keep you until the next level (marriage) or can say no to you. Yours is to prove to them beyond doubt that you can handle that marital office. Hope for the best, but stop defining the relationship.
3) IF YOUR PARTNER IS NOT PUTTING FORTH THE SAME EFFORT YOU ARE, SLOW DOWN AND WISE-UP.
In relationships we share responsibilities, but when one is putting so much effort in making it work, he /she should slow down or start wising up . If your partner doesn’t have anything “tangible” and reasonable for the happenings, get your eyes opened. One person can’t make a relationship work.
4) OPEN YOUR MIND AND CLOSE YOUR LEGS OR WALLET;
Nothing secures relationships, unlike marriages, for which families and the court can be witnesses. Be mindful if you’re spending so much money on your BF/GF or having sex here and there. Don’t open your doors to the point that you may feel cheated or used when the unexpected happens.
5) PAY ATTENTION TO RED FLAGS:
Most of what you see in the relationship is how your marriage with the other person will be. Don’t let love blind you because marriage will open your eyes. Everything your partner is doing in there is message to you so listen.
6) HOPE FOR THE BEST, BUT PREPARE FOR ANYTHING;
Yes, anything is bound to happen, so prepare for the unexpected as well. Think well and always pray for the best. Also, understand that breakups can also happen just as marriage can happen.
7) LISTEN TO THE HOLY SPIRIT;
Jesus left us the Holy Spirit to help us make good decisions. There are many times he talks to us, but we choose to ignore him until we are caught in the trap. Always listen to the Holy Spirit and save yourself from troubles.
8) DON’T SEE RELATIONSHIP OR DATING AS MARRIAGE, NO MATTER HOW SERIOUS IT IS;
Marriage and relationships aren’t the same, so don’t be deceived. As long as your bride price hasn’t been paid and your G.F families haven’t accepted any items from you(the B.F) as her bride price, you’re still outside the marriage gate. So set boundaries for yourself so that you don’t destroy your chances. Stop losing yourself in there.
9) LISTEN TO THE RIGHT AND GOOD ADVICE OR COUNSEL; Though not every piece of advice is good for you, some are so perfect for you. Listen and stop being blinded by love. At times God speak through people to you.
10) LEARN LESSONS FROM YOUR PAST RELATIONSHIPS AND OTHER PEOPLE EXPERIENCES;
Though we have individual differences and you shouldn’t presume all men to be the same, learn something about your past relationships and what’s happening to people in their unions .And use that to play your cards well.
