People see relationships as a social contract or business partnership, they marry depending on what their partner is bringing to the table to balance their effort. They look at their profession, how much they earn, the benefits, before agreeing to settle down with them.
The hard truth is, the 50/50 formula does not work with marriages. As much as money or finances play a major role in marriage and life as a whole, it’s not the only thing that makes marriages work. You can’t expect a marriage to work and last if you are not willing to give your all. If it takes money or riches to make marriage work, the rich won’t get divorced but unfortunately many rich or successful business minded persons or entrepreneurs have divorced.
It’s not a matter of looking for someone who can contribute 50 percent effort into a relationship but rather looking for someone you can give your all to. If you have not found someone you can give your all to, then you have not met your life partner.
The man or woman you settle with as a partner or are willing to marry should be willing to give their all. If they can’t give their all, they are not the right candidate to get married to. It’s not enough to find someone you love or someone who loves you. Your partner should love you as much as you love them. Your partner should give as much as you give.
I know there are lots of lazy people out there looking for someone to take care of them, I know there are lots of irresponsible people out there looking for someone who can be responsible for them. These are not candidates for marriage.
I also believe there is no single person who is useless on earth, which means everyone is useful and can contribute or give to a relationship. The problem however is we try to get into a relationship with a lazy person. Irresponsible people are getting into relationships or marriages which is a big error.
I’ve also noticed people don’t give much or contribute much into relationships or marriages because they are not with the one they love, not because they don’t have anything or can’t contribute anything towards the relationship or bring anything to the table.
Anyone who is willing or ready to marry should understand that marriage is between responsible persons. Once you are responsible for yourself, you can welcome someone else into your life. Getting married to someone doesn’t mean you are in their life to depend on them.
Two responsible persons who come together in marriage support each other, work together to achieve a common goal. It’s not a bad thing to look for someone who is handsome or beautiful but if he or she is not responsible, there is trouble ahead. There’s nothing wrong with looking for someone who is rich, well to do or well respected, but if he or she doesn’t love you as you love them, or vice versa, there is trouble ahead.
In conclusion, “If you love someone, you will be loyal to him no matter what the cost. You will always believe in him, always expect the best of him, and always stand your ground in defending him” – 1 Corinthians 13:7 (TLB).
