1) TAKE YOUR TIME BEFORE COMING TO A CONCLUSION…
Don’t be quick to throw away your marriage. Take some time to interrogate the feeling.
2) CHECK IF YOU ARE ENTERTAINING A DISTRACTION…
Check if there is someone new making you compare your spouse and them. Remember that someone new is always thrilling, shining, and attractive. Your spouse was once someone new.
3) KNOW THAT FEELINGS ARE FICKLE…
Don’t always rely on feelings. Feelings change and are fluid. Marriage and love are not feelings but commitments.
4) KNOW THAT MANY PEOPLE IN MARRIAGE HAVE FELT THE WAY YOU DO…
Know that for many couples, they have been at the feeling where you are, especially when the commitment is demanding and frustrating. It is just a season, it will pass.
5) CHECK IF YOU TWO BUILT ON THE RIGHT FOUNDATION AND MOTIVE…
Maybe you married for the wrong reasons; for money, for children, for social status, to win over someone who was admired by others. Now that you got what you wanted, you have lost interest. If this is the case, then do not make a selfish move by hurting the one you led on and the children you both love. Learn to love the person, if need be, seek counselling.
6) TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR CHOICE…
No one forced you to marry, step up, and honour your decision. Don’t turn yourself into a double-minded adult.
7) SEE THINGS FROM YOUR SPOUSE’S PERSPECTIVE…
Many things are difficult in your marriage because you are only seeing things from your perspective and being sensitive to your spouse and failing to see where your spouse is coming from. Marriage thrives when you stop thinking only about yourself.
8) CHECK IF YOU ARE ENTERTAINING MANY VOICES…
When you get various advice from different people with differing values, upbringing, agendas, experiences, and outlooks; you can easily get confused and begin to doubt your spouse. Be careful who you listen to.
9) CHECK IF YOU ARE A QUITTER…
If in the past you had a habit of getting bored easily and quitting relationships, friendships, or jobs; find out if your quitting ways are the problem, not your spouse. Maybe your commitment level is weak and needs working on. MQ
