Men are vulnerable when they live with a woman they no longer have control over. The vulnerability will extend to their children like we saw in the case of Herodias and her daughter.
Herod organized a birthday party and invited his mistress and her daughter, but Philip was not invited. Unfortunately, he couldn’t stop his wife nor daughter from attending the party. While Philip was at home or elsewhere hustling for daily bread, his daughter was dancing seductively to please the man sleeping with his wife. The man completely lost control of his family because he was poor or, rather, someone was richer than him. This is why most men go into dirty things just to make money to be in control. May we not be poor to the extent of losing control of our own family in Jesus’ name.
men must be careful not to step out of their boundaries just to please a woman who wants more than they can offer, and the women must be contented with what their husbands can offer. Stop comparing your husband with other men.
DON’T BE LIKE HERODIAS
Herodias combined wickedness with foolishness and promiscuity. She had unforgiveness, too. These are the same traits Jezebel possessed that made her a witch. If you are married to a woman who is promiscuous, wicked, and has an unforgiving spirit, oga, you are married to a potential witch. You need to be prayerful and careful, or else you will become a prey.
Her foolishness was exhibited when Herod asked her daughter to name her prize for dancing to please him, unto half of his kingdom and her daughter sought her advice. That would have been their opportunity to be wealthy forever, but instead, she counselled the daughter to request for the head of John the Baptist because he challenged their illicit affair with Herod. She got the head of John the Baptist but missed the opportunity to be great in life. This is the result of combining wickedness and foolishness together.
THE FOOLISHNESS THAT COMES WITH ADULTERY
Herod left his own wife (there was no record both in the Bible and history books that she was a bad wife) and got entangled with another man’s wife (his brother’s wife) and later divorced his wife and married a wicked woman. From the time he got entangled with his mistress, he stopped thinking straight.
He was naturally soft hearted, but adultery stole that from him and replaced it with a dead conscience. He wouldn’t have beheaded John the Baptist if not that he had made a foolish oath to give half of his kingdom to the daughter of his mistress merely because she danced to please him.
Matthew 14:9
And the king was sorry: nevertheless for the oath’s sake, and them which sat with him at meat, he commanded it to be given her.
Only a foolish man under the influence of the confusion of adultery will promise a girl up to half of his kingdom just because of an ordinary dance. Adultery does not let wise men think wisely. That is why a supposed responsible man will deny his wife and children a good life and be spending a fortune to maintain a side chick outside.
What if Salome had requested for half of his kingdom? What would have happened? Maybe she would have become the second in command! Foolishness! Adultery corrupts wisdom. If you are living in adultery, stop it now before you start acting like an idiot.
CAUTION!
Note that everyone has someone (opposite sex) they are secretly admiring, and you are inclusive. Such feelings may not have any strings attached to it now, but we must deliberately avoid opportunities that will give rise to nursing such feelings. One way to stay above temptation is to tell yourself the truth about how you feel about that person.
Sometimes we don’t have the courage to tell our spouse about these persons, same way our partners have feelings for someone else but can’t tell us. If we can be sincere to tell our partner about these people, we are halfway out of the temptation. If we can also avoid judging our partners when they tell us their feelings about other opposite sex, it will go a long way to help each other.
It doesn’t mean they do not love us anymore or they’re loosed, this is the way we are wired.
