I have seen many people give up on their relationship so soon just because of a little challenge. Even people who were supposedly sure the relationship was of God give up so soon and start thinking that perhaps God did not lead led them to the relationship in the first place. A successful relationship doesn’t just happen. It requires work and prayer. The fact that he or she is God’s will for you doesn’t mean that challenges will not come or that the relationship will succeed automatically.
The devil is always looking for godly relationships to destroy; you must not allow him. Jesus said “…I will build my church; and the gates of hell shall not prevail against it. (Matthew 16:18). Even Jesus admits that the gates of hell, challenges, opposition will attack what he builds (your relationship) but the good news is that no matter the attack or challenge, it won’t prevail. Even the house built on the rock that Jesus talked about in Matthew 7:25 experienced a lot of challenges but it didn’t fall.
There are times that your fiancé or fiancée will just misbehave or probably do things you don’t expect from him or her. He or she may not even call you for days or do as if he or she loves you anymore; this can be an attack of the devil against your relationship. Don’t react by doing the same or shouting; rather take time to pray and call him or her to order.
There are times you just need to sit him or her down and discuss issues bothering you and the way forward, and it may be a time to settle everything in the place of prayer. The importance of praying for your relationship cannot be overemphasized. It is not only during crisis or challenges that you pray; you need to pray always even when all is going on fine.
If you’ve not imbibed the habit of praying together with your fiancé or fiancée in your relationship, I will advise you that you start now. Plan to pray and study the Bible together when you meet. Don’t just be financially or emotionally committed to the relationship, be committed spiritually through prayers and study of Gods word.
Do a regular appraisal of your relationship; ask questions, look for productive things to do that will enhance your lives. Spend time together, communicate often. Set boundaries for yourselves; don’t allow your emotion to dictate what you do in your relationship. Be spirit-led. Don’t give up; start working out your relationship and God will help you out.
