You can’t believe all men or women are bad and expect to meet a good one. You can’t hate on the opposite gender and then desire or want to be with one.
The first way to get it right in relationships and marriages is to get your mind right. What you think, how you think it, and why you think it affects your dating experience.
You can not say you don’t need a man or want a man, yet on a low key, you desire to be married.
Please don’t allow the world and its negative vibes to make you become tox!c
Yes. We know that there are some bad men and bad women. We know they exist, and we know there are good ones too.
You can not believe all the other gender are bad, and yet you secretly desire to meet a good one.
Assuming there is just one good guy or lady in the whole world, do you think that one good person would want to be with someone like you that believe that all the opposite gender are bad?
A good man wants a good woman too, and a good woman wants a good man. A good person won’t want to be with someone hating on people like him. Rather he would look for someone not broken, who believes good people like him exist and is good too.
The reason why you keep meeting bad people or are unable to meet or keep a good person could be because you are either hating on them, you don’t believe they exist, or you are tox!c towards them. And you are very vocal about it too.
I can boldly use myself as an example. If I ever hear you say all men are trash, or men are the problem, or target any hate towards men, there is nothing in this life that would make me want to be with someone like you. You have a lot of negative energy in you. This applies to many other good people out there, not just me.
Attraction can connect you with any person. The good, the bad, and ugly, but only an aligned mindset and character can keep that person.
If you meet a bad person and your mindset aligns. You believe men are trash, and he believes women are trash too; that’s a like mind there. Both of you will be ok together because you believe in not trusting the opposite gender. If you believe there are still good people out there, and he believes that too, you have like minds and will trust each other.
But let’s assume you believe men are trash, and he doesn’t believe women are trash and that men aren’t trash too. Do you think such a good man would want to have any other thing to do with someone who doesn’t believe a good man like him exist? No, he won’t because your mindset doesn’t align, and it shows him your character too might not align either. He walks away, and you just lost a good man because of your hate and tox!c mindset toward the opposite gender.
This goes both ways.
I hope you see how your mind runs your life. This is to say, with all the bad things happening in this world, if you want a good man or woman, then you MUST get the state of your heart/mind right because they determine the course of your life.
Remember proverbs, right?
Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.
Proverbs 4:23 NLT
What you think about the opposite gender determines if you will find a good one or you will end up with the ones that will make you hate them more.
Men have problems. Women have problems. Men are not the problem. Women are not the problem. Human beings generally cause the problems. Each gender has contributed equally to the problems we face today, but that doesn’t make all of us bad. Men need women, and Women need men. If we didn’t need each other, God wouldn’t have made both of us.
Some of us have separated ourselves from the rest. We are living a good life and improving ourselves daily. We don’t want to hurt anyone. We don’t want to play games. All we want is to find the good one like us and treat them right as Christ has instructed us to treat our partner.
If you don’t believe we exist, it’s safe to say these prayers. May you never find us. May we only be found by people who believe we exist and believe in us. People who believe we need each other. People not hating on us. Amen.
Since you don’t believe good men and women do exist, may you keep dealing with the bad ones until you come to realize that we exist and you start working on yourself and your mind, then you will find us.
Good people need other good people.
As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.
Proverbs 27:17 NLT
We the good ones, need the same good energy to stay sharp and happy. We do not need bad energy or someone that doesn’t believe we exist because we can not sharpen each other. It’s going to be a mismatch.
Work on your mind, and you will increase your chances of meeting the good and right one for you. If there is only one good opposite gender in the world, believe in that one and determine to find that one and be with that one. Forget about the rest.
stay blessed 💕
