What I’m about to say may not sit well with some people, but I’ll say it anyway.
The word floating around is that women shouldn’t advance themselves because it will affect their chances of getting married or keeping a home.
Whether it’s academically, in their careers, or in business, some say a lady should limit herself for the sake of a husband.
And when you listen to these arguments, sincerely speaking, it sounds like common sense, especially when they start bringing up examples of women whose “success” supposedly ruined their marriages.
But as someone who doesn’t settle for less, I see that as an average mindset.
I’m okay being the guy with the unpopular opinion, so let me say this…
First and foremost, only little people belittle others to gain relevance. Change your thinking.
Why should a lady hold herself back because a man can’t keep up?
I’ve always said it, marriage is a choice, and how you prepare yourself will determine who you’ll settle with. Limiting your growth isn’t the solution.
If you believe a woman’s education ends in the kitchen, go and marry an uneducated lady so that she’ll die in your kitchen.
Don’t marry a lady with a great qualification and allow her to waste in your house indefinitely simply because of your insecurities that you’ve failed to deal with.
It’s understandable if it’s for a while, probably to assist with nurturing and raising the kids. Houses don’t have wives, what do you mean by “house wife “?”It doesn’t make sense.
The men who push this limiting narrative are operating with an outdated mindset, one where the man was expected to be the sole provider, as it was in the days of our forefathers.
If you still want to operate like that in this generation, you’re going to be limited because the world has changed.
We now live in a time where both men and women are contributing to the growth of their homes, and there’s nothing wrong with that.
Let me make this clear.
A man’s authority in his home has nothing to do with how much he earns. It’s about respecting the order God has created in marriage.
A husband is the head of his home not because he earns more but because God has placed him in that position. And it’s not subject to change.
Now, if a woman lacks understanding, or if she has bad character and disrespect for her husband, and chooses to tear her home apart because of her success, then that’s an issue of her attitude, not her education or career.
We should not use the mistakes of a few to set a limit on all women. Placing a cap on women’s growth is mediocrity, and we are not called to be mediocre.
Ladies, if you have the opportunity to further your education, go ahead and do it. Don’t be afraid.
If you can afford a master’s degree or even a doctorate, by all means, go for it.
If you can expand your business, don’t hold back. If you’re climbing the corporate ladder, keep going.
But in all your achievements, remember this.
No matter how far you go, your husband is still your head. Even if you’re a professor and he’s a secondary school graduate, your position doesn’t change the order that God has set.
Your success doesn’t make you the head of the home.
You can be successful and submissive.
You’re his helper, and you’re expected to help him, not take the lead because you earn more.
We need to correct the narrative, not limit ourselves.
God didn’t create us to be average or to hold back.
You can be successful and still honour the role your husband plays in your home. Don’t be a foolish wife who tears her home down with her own hands.
Let’s raise the standard and remove the limits that are placed on women for the sake of outdated ideas.
You’re well able, go forward, the right partner would appreciate you for not settling for less.
The world has moved forward, and so should we.
Don’t hold back.
Go as far as you can, but never forget the wisdom of keeping God’s order in your home.
That’s how you truly win.
This is just a counsel, and you can do with it as you please.
