Date purposefully. If you stop reading from here and you understand what I just said, today is a fruitful day for you.
Here we tell ourselves the truth, so I want to ask you a serious question, and try to be sincere with yourself, if you’re not planning to marry in the next 2, 3 years, what do you really need a relationship for?
What can you do in a relationship that you can’t do in friendship while waiting for the appointed time?
Maybe there are people who have the grace to stay in a relationship for up to 4, 5, 6 years+ without fornication, I don’t know, but I think I don’t have that kind of grace yet.
Instead of using 10 years to build a house, why not build a business for 9 years and use the profit from that business to build a house from start to finish in one year?
Think about it.
There are people you’ve dated and regretted that you wouldn’t have dated if your priorities were set right, if you don’t want to marry as an undergraduate why are you dating in 100 or 200 level?
And it’s not like the person you’re dating has an established business to settle down with you immediately after graduation, you’re stirring up love at the wrong time.
I’m telling you, you’ll struggle with fornication, and very few people won’t fall into it.
You’re not ready for marriage and you’re dating, ehhhn fine girl? What if he asks you to marry him now, you’ll now be confused?
Save yourself time, energy, and resources by dating purposefully, some of the “break fasts” were avoidable and unnecessary, at 23 you’re already tired of relationships, when did you start?
I’m not trying to discourage anyone or rule out the fact that there are few people who date from a tender age and still end up together in marriage, I’m simply saying there’s a better alternative for the overwhelming majority who usually get their hearts broken again and again in search of love.
There’s a time and season for everything, so for a young man who is just starting out in life from scratch, you shouldn’t be building a romantic relationship when you’re supposed to be building a business or learning a high income skill, you get my point?
I’m sorry to say this, but if you remove sex and money from most relationships right now, you don’t have a relationship, that’s pure transactional situationship not relationship.
Moreover, how do you expect God to bless your disobedience? Let’s reason these things together.
The only union that nobody is permitted to put asunder is the one God joined together, so can you say your relationship is joined together by love (God) or lust?
Mind you, whether joined by God or not, the same challenges, storms, and chaos of life will hit that marriage (that’s if you make it all the way through), but whether it will stand or fall depends on where you lay the foundation of that marriage.
If you’re serious with your walk with God, you shouldn’t be in a relationship if you’re not ready for marriage, it’s a different thing when you’re planning towards it.
This is just a counsel and you can do with it as you please, you know yourself, do what works for you, I’m just saying.
The right partner is worth the wait, that’s when you’ll know that marriage is beautiful, I dare you to wait and marry correctly, you’ll see.
