If marriage is enough, a woman can not be attracted to another man after she is married, and a man will not be attracted to another woman after he is married.
Whether marriage is enough or not depends on the mindset as a man or a woman. There are things that contribute to a woman getting attracted to another man and a man getting attracted to another woman after marriage.
“Being married to the love of your life doesn’t mean you stop noticing other people. It also doesn’t mean you don’t need to give in to temptation. We’re all human, and turning a blind eye to the rest of the world once we find our person just isn’t realistic.”
A man or woman who lacks self-control when it comes to the opposite sex when not married will find it difficult to be when married. Anyone who is married with the hope of escaping premarital sex will still have a river of extramarital sex to cross.
Opposite sex relationship (the way of a man with a woman) remains a wonder from the scriptural point of view. Only God understands it. See Proverbs 30:28. We will continue to fight the temptation until the body succumbs to death. Because, as it stands, even if the body is dead to act, the heart is strong to desire.
As long as one is alive and healthy, whether married or not, the attraction of the opposite sex can not be outgrown. If a healthy person outgrows attraction, then temptation has ceased to be. As long as we live, the temptation to be attracted to the opposite sex exists.
“It is normal to feel attraction to other people. Women feel attraction sometimes to other men as well when they are married. The most important thing is that you do not act on that attraction or let it distract you from the time you spend with your [marriage partner]”
Attraction is natural. It’s quite literally what keeps our species from going extinct. So there is no reason to endlessly guilt-trip [oneself over it].” Rather, one should be worried about falling into the trap of attraction and its consequences.
“While temptation is unavoidable, sin is still inexcusable. Even if you feel overwhelmingly attracted to another man (or woman), unfaithfulness doesn’t have to be your destiny. God has promised to provide a way out for those who are willing to run to him.”
“Right after Paul told us to be careful not to fall, he gave some very practical advice about how to handle temptation: “No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind.”
“And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it” (1 Corinthians 10:13, NIV).”
“Every affair begins with a temptation—an attraction. Unfortunately, most of us have no idea what to do when a man other than your husband starts to pay attention to you. It feels good to be pursued again, especially if your marriage is in the doldrums.”
Let’s tell ourselves the truth. If a woman happens to marry a man who is not up and doing his social and sexual responsibilities to his wife, that wife is exposed to temptation. One can not avoid the temptation of attraction but can avoid yielding to the aim of the temptation.
“Every married woman is at risk for an affair. If you say, “No, I’d never do that!” Take to heart what Paul wrote, “If you think you are standing firm, be careful that you don’t fall!” (1 Corinthians 10:12).”
When a woman is not getting what she thinks she should get from her husband, the temptation to fantasize about other men, especially young men, that she knows and who she may think to be better than her own husband.
This is a possible and likely experience, and a significant percentage of ladies do.
“Finding joy in feeling both young and fit is what attracts married women to younger guys.”
“When a younger man shows interest, it’s like looking in a mirror that reflects a more youthful self, bringing a sense of confidence and attractiveness. It’s not about denying the ageing process but embracing the lively feeling.”
“Many married women pursue relationships with other men due to unmet emotional and sexual needs in their marriages. This pursuit of external relationships allows them to reclaim their sense of desirability and autonomy, reflecting a broader societal shift towards women’s rights to explore their sexuality.”
Most women who desire other men are victims of emotional connection: “A married woman might be drawn to another man if he provides emotional support, understanding, and companionship that she feels is lacking in her current relationship.”
If a woman who lacks emotional connection with the husband feels a deep connection with another man, it can possibly create for her a sense of emotional fulfilment that her marriage has failed to give her.
Every man, every woman desires emotional connection and fulfilment with his or her partner, and when that is lacking, the temptation to seek satisfaction elsewhere is inevitable.
God is not silent about this matter, and His word is clear about it. “But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. The husband should fulfil his marital duty to his wife, and likewise, the wife to her husband.” 1 Cor. 7:2,3.
In verse 5, “Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer.”
“This passage means that spouses should not deny each other sexual relations unless they both agree to abstain for a limited time to focus on prayer. The passage also states that spouses should come together again after the agreed-upon time to avoid temptation from Satan.
Emotional connection is one special thing that glues and keeps husband and wife closer to each other, keeping their relationship intact as well as helping them face marriage challenges with success.
Marriage is not enough without self-control and a disciplined mindset; marriage is not enough without a total commitment to godly and biblical principles.
“I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a girl [woman]. For what is man’s lot from God above, his heritage from the Almighty on high? Is it not ruin for the wicked disaster for those who do wrong?” Job 31:1-3. “[Lustfully looking at a woman involves strong sexual desire].”
Truly, marriage is not enough to keep one from getting attracted and desiring the opposite sex for an extramarital relationship; marriage is not enough to keep one from the temptation to promiscuity; marriage is not enough to keep one from cheating on one’s partner.
But self-control and a disciplined mindset will.
