When people start a new relationship, they can spend both daytime and nighttime talking or interacting with their new found friend or lover without getting tired. They find time out of their busy schedules to stay in touch and don’t care about losing sleep while talking to them. During such periods, the bond and the connection they share grow stronger and deeper.
Such people don’t think twice before proposing marriage to their partner or accepting their marriage proposal because of the strong connection developed over the short period of time. But the story is different in many cases when the couple has been married for some time. Hardly do they make time to talk or interact. Soon, the deep connection they shared starts fading.
Marriage or any other relationship you value needs your presence. It is the goal of the couple to create such a presence with daily communication or interaction. Sharing the same space or having children is not enough to strengthen the connection you share.
What you spend your time doing together daily is what strengthens the connection. If you are married or in a relationship but spend more time with anyone than your partner, you are likely to develop a deep connection with those other people.
It is not surprising that some married couples are in the same room as their spouse, but they are in love or deeply connected with someone outside their marriage because of how they make time to interact with that someone.
What you give your time to grows; what you give your attention to defines your interest. We value what we make time for. It’s wrong to ignore your relationship and expect a deep connection or love for your partner. 60 minutes together daily can keep the connection. Set a time aside for your relationship or marriage.
In conclusion, “Don’t just pretend that you love others: really love them. Hate what is wrong. Stand on the side of the good” – Romans 12:9 (TLB).
